Thanks, people. I've passed this info along.
I think what I'm hearing is standard pressure ammo and (maybe) a heavier Ruger?
I think a
heavier Ruger revolver shooting 38 Special standard pressure loads is about the softing shooting possible in a still adequate self defense round.
This may be a tad larger than hoped for, but something like this Ruger GP100 double action revolver...
...made for shooting the 357 Magnum, with a 3" barrel, weighing in at 36 ounces. It'll digest all the 38 Special you could ever feed it and then some, and especially if you stay with standard pressure ammo (no +P stuff) it oughta shoot as softly as my single six with 22mag ammo. And every now and then you yourself can have some fun running some 357 Magnum loads through it too. Nice thing about it having the exposed hammer is she can shoot it single action style too (it's not double action only).
If you care, you can see it at the link below, plus showing the different barrel lengths it's available in, some with adjustable sights, one with fixed sights, some blued, and some stainless.
http://www.ruger.com/products/gp100/models.html
Just throwing it out there as something that would be really soft shooting without going to a 22 of one sort or another. Heck, those GP100s even come with a nice soft grippy Black Hogue® Monogrip®.
I understand it's larger than the likes of LCRs and G26s, but it's still a reasonable size, and she'ld probably have lots of fun shooting it, instead of wondering how soon the shooting session will be over.
If you insist on going smaller, there are always the Ruger SP101s for launching 38 Special loads, and for reference, depending on barrel length, the SP101s weigh from 3 to 6 more ounces than a G17 to help tame recoil.
Here's a SP101 with a 3.06" barrel (which you can also shoot 357 Magnum from).
The nice thing about this particular one is it still has the exposed hammer and can be shot single action when she wants.
Keep in mind, GP100s hold 6 rounds, and SP101s hold 5 rounds.
Please don't think I'm telling you what to do. Just throwing it our there for ya.
Good Shooting,
Craig :thumbsup: