I own at least a half dozen G26s from Gen 3-5. Your decision will come down primarily to ergonomics, rather than the performance of the guns. Given the size of my hands and grip, the ability to use the beavertail backstraps with the Gen 4 and 5 was a benefit, as they helped prevent slide bite. Depending on the size of your hands, you may prefer the smaller grip of the Gen 4/5 without backstraps, or the the larger grip size while using them. The ergonomics of the Gen 4/5 guns are improved in my opinion, as the frame texture provides more grip, and the mag release is easier to actuate. The Gen 4 is no longer being marketed to civilians, so you’ll likely need to choose between the Gen 3 and 5. The Gen 5 removes the finger grooves, adds slide serrations and has an ambi slide stop lever.
in terms of shooting performance, the triggers will feel a little different, but the recoil impulse is the same across all three Gens and there isn’t any meaningful difference when it comes to accuracy; they’re all great in that respect.
The backstraps are plenty strong, so don’t worry about them breaking. I’ve used them on various models, including the G26, and never had a backstrap crack or deform and I’ve had numerous guns with 50-100k rounds on them.