My father in law recently passed away at the age of 59 - he was a Vietnam veteran I believe serving from 67 to 69ish. Somebody messed up either at the Legion or the funreal home (leaning towards these boneheads being the problem) and nobody showed up for the military funreal. A couple guys ended up jumping in to fold the flag and nothing more was said. The guy never talked about his service but was the biggest patriot I ever saw - everything was eagles and american flags at his house. Just seems wrong to think he was slighted of his ceremony. I dont know if there is a proper protocol but is it possible to get the honor guard to come out and do a private ceremony for the family - I would be more than willing to make a donation.