Would you still be a friend?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Doc Holliday, May 22, 2020.

  1. Stay friends

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  2. Let it go

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  1. Doc Holliday

    Doc Holliday CLM

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    Okay, here's the back story...he and I had been friends since kids, since before grade school, really...his family moved away, but we were still friends. He grew up, got married, had a kid, lost a kid, divorced....you know, life....still friends, keeping in touch....then, one day, POOF! Disappeared off the face of the planet. I tried to get in touch, no home address, his emails no longer valid, an abandoned FB page, his telephone number not in service...

    ....fast forward five years....emails and texts out of the blue, says he's 'in the area' and wants to get together for a beer and to catch up.

    So...he's had my email and phone number all this time and never bothered to contact me? WTH?

    That's not how real friendship works, in my book.
     
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  2. evlbruce

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    Not going to say aliens. But it was aliens.

    See what the lizard-person doppelganger has to say.
     
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  3. BigDog[RE]

    BigDog[RE] NRA Member

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    Maybe there is a reason behind his dropping out like that. I would give him a chance to explain.
     
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  4. rainman33

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    Well, at least you could get some answers. At worst, you tell him that being a friend means you show up, and you don’t consider him a friend any longer.
     
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  5. Doc Holliday

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    I dunno...other than being in jail or dead, I can't see why anyone couldn't take a minute to call or email or text over the course of five years.
     
  6. TBO

    TBO Why so serious? CLM

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    Relax, he probably just needs a kidney.

    Only panic if he asks to meet you at a motel room.

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    nikerret Mr. Awesome

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    My curiosity would require the beer meeting.
     
  8. Glockresistor

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    Maybe you pissed him off? I had a friend or a guy I thought was a friend until I found out we were friends because all of the nice things I could build and fix for him, as soon as I asked for a favor, he disappeared. I golfed with him fished with him family gatherings e.t.c. for 30 years. tough to take sometimes , I would hear him out tell him what you are telling us and let the chips fall.
     
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    You don’t necessarily have to be friends going forward, but your history together probably deserves at least a 10 minute closure beer.
     
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    Witness protection program?
     
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  11. ScubaSteve

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    You can't really answer that until you actually talk to the dude..
     
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    I recently went through this.
    I don’t have the time or patience for part time friends.
     
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    You never know. I don't think disappearing is grounds for unfriending.
     
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    9jeeps Avatars, no mas.

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    Your call. Why not? I've had friends I haven't heard from for 15 years call and want to connect. I always figured they needed or wanted something. Plus I had moved on to new friends. I never have cottoned up to this buddy buddy crap. And left all that behind when I went into the Air Force in 1960.
     
  15. catman71

    catman71 Spewer of TROOF

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    You don’t know what the deal is.

    he might have a good reason. Once you find out you can decide if you still want him as a friend
     
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    Maybe he was on his trek to Mecca
     
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    Hate to break it to you, but that's not your friend...

    #RussianHackers

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    Come on man , he might need some money .
     
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    You don't need to be friends to have a beer. Did he say he is buying?
     
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  20. Ordell Robbie

    Ordell Robbie Giant Member

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    Maybe it's part of a 12 step program...
     
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