Okay, here's the back story...he and I had been friends since kids, since before grade school, really...his family moved away, but we were still friends. He grew up, got married, had a kid, lost a kid, divorced....you know, life....still friends, keeping in touch....then, one day, POOF! Disappeared off the face of the planet. I tried to get in touch, no home address, his emails no longer valid, an abandoned FB page, his telephone number not in service... ....fast forward five years....emails and texts out of the blue, says he's 'in the area' and wants to get together for a beer and to catch up. So...he's had my email and phone number all this time and never bothered to contact me? WTH? That's not how real friendship works, in my book.