Work lady etiquette question

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  1. catman71

    catman71 Spewer of TROOF

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    There is this lady at work who is about 45. She was about a 5.

    she’s been there for 5 or 6 years. About 2 years ago she started dropping a few pounds and growing her hair out and dressing nicer

    now she is very slender and looks great. Probably a 8 or 9. I talk to her occasionally and are just work aquatintences

    in 2020, does a guy dare to compliment a woman who is obviously working hard on herself?

    Not yet interested romantically, but I would say it too a guy coworker....I think someone working so hard might like a compliment but it’s too risky.

    what’s your take?
     
  2. Resqu2

    Resqu2

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    Not in today’s world, heck she may be looking better hoping someone will say something so she can sue and get money lol. And to be honest, do you even know for sure that she’s a she? Can’t tell anymore.
     

  3. Redeemed

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    No way! Too many possible downsides to an innocent compliment. Sad to say that but unfortunately it seems to be true.
     
  4. B C

    B C

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    Nope.
     
  5. jimcorbin

    jimcorbin

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    You need to take pictures of her from all angles, and post them on here, so I can make an appropriate decision on whether to comment or not.
     
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  6. napp32

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    Wow, have we really come to this? How in the hell do people even make dates in today's world? I can fondly remember when flirting was an art practiced by both sides before finally taking more positive steps toward a relationship.
     
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  7. cyberghostx13

    cyberghostx13 USMC "The Few The Proud"

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    Well you have gone there long enough, to make that assessment. Tell her that she really has changed and looks quite nice and her manner also reflects that. I compliment women all the time, usually on a nice dress or a nice piece of jewelry, it's a sincere compliment and I look them right in the eye when I pay that compliment. In the next instant I can tell if they appreciated it or not.
     
  8. Boo Berry

    Boo Berry Fair lady, your chariot awaits.

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    Depends on your delivery.

    Nuances too subtle to be described on a message board, but it can be done.
     
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  9. Rokitt

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    Nope don't do it don't even think about doing it.
     
  10. Batesmotel

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    It is out of control. I know a situation where a woman received a massive well earned promotion. She was now going to be making presentations to heads of some of the most powerful companies in America. It came with the use of a fashion consultant and clothes shopping on the company dime.

    Her friends twisted it to seem like a body shaming move by the company. The whole thing went south from there.
     
  11. uzimon

    uzimon Daca is caca

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    Why say anything? Unless you want to be on it like a hobo on a ham sammich?
     
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  12. GeorgiaGlocker

    GeorgiaGlocker Philippians 4: 6-7

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    She probably wears a wire for HR. :rolleyes:

    I wouldn't say a thing unless she was a good friend of mine.
     
  13. Rotn1

    Rotn1

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    Why???????

    What’s the up side and the down side?

    If you are not trying to establish a connection....... KEEP IT PROFESSIONAL.
     
  14. willie_pete

    willie_pete NRA Life Member

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    Just stand there licking your eyebrows and see if she comments.

    That will be your clue.
     
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    Pierre! NRA Life Member

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    I would definitely praise her... There can never be enough affirmation to someone who's made some Life Changes... I do it to guys who have done similar transformations. Everyone enjoys an honest complement from out of the Blue!!!

    "S'cuse me... I don't wanna come off like I'm hitting on you, cause I'm not... I'm happily married... "

    "But I have to tell you that I have noticed some significant changes in your appearance, and I'm brave enough to come out and tell you I noticed you made some very positive changes and I commend you on the efforts! I'm sure other have noticed but may be afraid of being labeled as a Sex Harassment dude..."

    "That's all I wanted to let you know, hope you are okay with this... Keep up the good work and have a great rest of your day"....

    Something like that should be well received... Then make sure you tell your wife about it the very same day... Insurance like that is cheap... :)

    Life is about lifting others up when you can!

    :waving:
     
  16. AdamRodgers

    AdamRodgers "Facts matter, Feeling can lie" DocGKR

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    No need for me to add anything, your getting sold suggestions.......

    .....especially the dry humping. :D
     
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    KBKEITH Problem Solver Platinum Member

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    That’s easy. Keep quiet.
     
  18. glock collector

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    Does she have a Bravia and how's her toofs?
     
  19. collim1

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    Wow, this has all the making of a classic GNG thread.

    The short answer is yes. You can certainly compliment a co-worker of either sex. That being said the compliment needs to be of a non-sexual nature.

    I can’t find it at the moment, but there is a hilarious MadTV (man I miss that show) skit showing the difference between giving a compliment and sexual harassment. The difference was a compliment came from someone who is handsome and the same compliment given by someone who the woman finds unattractive was sexual harassment.
     
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  20. thespork

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    Hang out around her with your fly open..
    If she says something, act embarrassed..
    If she says nothing, she wants you