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Why Get Married?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Bensmiata, Oct 23, 2012.

  1. Bensmiata

    Bensmiata

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    I see almost no advantage to getting married other than it gives you and your spouse the satisfaction of saying 'this is my husband/wife'. Other than that there are not any significant benefits to the proposition and so many ways it can go wrong. I know too many people who are: unhappily married, divorced, paying alimony, paying child support, been cheated on, cheat, been married 2/3/4 times (do you learn??) and the list goes on. Honestly, what sense does it make financially or otherwise?
     
  2. wjv

    wjv Zip It Stan Lee.. . .

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    So you can have a valid excuse for not having any sex. . . .
     

  3. GlockinNJ

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    Why get married? Just like having kids, it's a personal decision that should not be made in the heat of passion.

    It's not for everyone.
     
  4. Bensmiata

    Bensmiata

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    //End Thread// :rofl:
     
  5. skinny99

    skinny99 Crew Chief

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    I see no reason. There are very few things that marriage brings that cannot happen without marriage. None that are important to me.
     
  6. bmoore

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    Stop hanging out with losers. Parents have been married 35 years, grandparents over 50 years. Happy people, dont cheat on one anoter, don't pay child support/almoney.........the list goes on.
     
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    Congrats! Sounds like you come from a great family. Do you think that the piece of paper that each of them signed made them anymore faithful or happy?

    I think it boils down to who you are rather then what paper you sign. IMO
     
  8. slick64

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    The items above can happen married or not, btw.

    Obviously, there are some tax benefits, and it shows a sense of commitment.

    If its not a big deal or make sense to you, but if you met the woman of your dreams and she wanted to get married, you're saying you wouldn't?
     
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    I agree with this. It probably has to due more with the woman. I have no problems commiting on paper that I am with her thin and thick.
     
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    I will say to you the same thing I say to anyone else who asks that question:

    If you have to ask, then you'll never know.
     
  11. Brucev

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    You got it exactly right! Been married 33 years. Wonderful life together. A real joy!
     
  12. Sharkey

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    You are precisely correct. The certificate and license has NOTHING to do with it. It does boil down to who you are. Heathens live together in sin and Christians make a covenant with and before God. There is also the example of marriage being used to define our relationship with the Lord.

    Hence the reason some are upset with two people of the same sex being "married". The problem with a lot of marriages today are we don't see it as a covenant as much as a contract and they are not the same. We've been breaking contracts for a long time now.

    If I wasn't a Christian, I'd probably just live with someone too.
     
  13. IndyGunFreak

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    Yup.

    I couldn't imagine my life w/o my wife(just over 5yrs).

    IGF
     
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    So true. Been married 30 years and I'd do it again. Best thing that ever happened to me.
     
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    Tax breaks and other social welfare.
     
  16. tantrix

    tantrix J'aimeLouisiane

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    Exactly right. You're going to either bust up or stay together, married or not. Marriage doesn't change the final outcome.
     
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    But I don't lose half my **** when I drop the GF :tongueout:
     
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    Why own a car when you can just ride the bus and not have to worry about gas, insurance, licensing, taxes, fees, etc? And depending on where you live, that may be a valid point. But taking the bus is certainly not for everyone, which is exactly the point. You may have known your fair share of people in bad marriages that ended in divorce, infidelity, etc, but you probably also know a fair share of people who are perfectly happy being married to their one wife or husband of x number of years, and can't imagine it being any other way. If it's not for you then it's not for you, and lots of women (and men) are not worth being married to. But that doesn't mean that it doesn't make sense.
     
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    basically right, marriage is between the couple for the sake of reproduction and some legal issues. The state has no business in it only you and your spouse.
     
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    Get paid a lot more if you're in the military and get off base housing vice having to live on the ship!

    Been married for 25 years and am very happy.
     
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