close

Privacy guaranteed - Your email is not shared with anyone.

What would YOU do?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by PrincessCelica, Aug 17, 2012.

  1. PrincessCelica

    PrincessCelica

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2006
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    13
    Location:
    Glocktopia
    Fiance and I have sent off the wedding invites. We're starting to get back RSVPs from people. His brother's in-laws just sent us an RSVP through our wedding website that was tacky to say the least.

    Brought up family drama that is none of my business let alone my parents (who are receiving the emails when someone RSVPs on the site). Made accusations that we know aren't true (claimed brother is on drugs)... etc. And just lamenting that brother and wife moved to be closer to his family and away from her side.

    Mom showed me, I showed Joe. He's now wondering if we should bring this up to his brother. Personally I don't want to get dragged in the middle of their problems and I don't see how telling is going to HELP anything. But he feels like we should say something.

    If you were in our shoes, would you say anything or leave them to deal with their own issues?
     
  2. NeverMore1701

    NeverMore1701 Fear no Evil Platinum Member

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2004
    Messages:
    40,169
    Likes Received:
    6,385
    Location:
    Amarillo, Tx
    I'd tell 'em to do everyone a favor and stay away.
     

  3. happy seal

    happy seal

    Joined:
    Apr 12, 2007
    Messages:
    3,944
    Likes Received:
    10
    Location:
    Connecticut
    tell him what is being said about him and let him defend himslef.

    Wedding prep was one of the hardest things my wife and I went through. good luck!
     
  4. Glockdude1

    Glockdude1 Federal Member CLM

    Joined:
    May 24, 2000
    Messages:
    25,310
    Likes Received:
    4,229
    Location:
    Beaumont,Texas
    :agree:
     
  5. DaneA

    DaneA

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2011
    Messages:
    2,501
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Chattanooga
    Tell them that family issues have absolutely no place in your wedding and you would like to keep it that way. If they can't do that then they are not welcome at your wedding.
     
  6. ChuteTheMall

    ChuteTheMall Witless Protection Program

    Joined:
    Aug 20, 2000
    Messages:
    65,562
    Likes Received:
    84,457
    Location:
    Trump Tower, overlooking the wall Mexico bought.
    Tell everyone to be at the Elvis Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas at noon next Saturday, or they'll miss it. Get it over with.
    :tongueout:
     
  7. PrincessCelica

    PrincessCelica

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2006
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    13
    Location:
    Glocktopia
    They said they are not coming, so that's not an issue. The issue I had was how "honest" they were about why.
     
  8. wrenrj1

    wrenrj1

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    7,102
    Likes Received:
    319
    Location:
    Huskerville
    Don't over think it, let it go. Why do you care how honest they are about the reason. It's one less issue to deal with when planning a wedding. Worry about the people that are gonna show up.
     
  9. NeverMore1701

    NeverMore1701 Fear no Evil Platinum Member

    Joined:
    Jun 25, 2004
    Messages:
    40,169
    Likes Received:
    6,385
    Location:
    Amarillo, Tx
    Thank them for not coming?
     
  10. arclight610

    arclight610

    Joined:
    Dec 2, 2009
    Messages:
    3,038
    Likes Received:
    2
    Actually the whole point of a wedding is to bring all the family together, so family issues would have a place.
     
  11. Arquebus12

    Arquebus12 Non-broccophobe CLM

    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2001
    Messages:
    13,837
    Likes Received:
    20
    Location:
    Centerburg, OH
    Count your blessings then, Majesty, because with them not coming, it's a non-issue. And a good thing besides.

    There's something I find incredibly wrong about how family thinks it can talk to each other in ways that they wouldn't ever consider with a stranger, let alone a friend, and I don't tolerate it. Which is probably why I'm on the outs with my family...

    Be sure to post lotsa wedding pics.
     
  12. wrenrj1

    wrenrj1

    Joined:
    May 22, 2002
    Messages:
    7,102
    Likes Received:
    319
    Location:
    Huskerville

    Sorry, disagree. It's about the wedding and those getting married. Family issues should be put aside, or they don't come. It's about the bride and groom, if family can't do what's right then they should not be there.
     
  13. PrincessCelica

    PrincessCelica

    Joined:
    Apr 19, 2006
    Messages:
    2,322
    Likes Received:
    13
    Location:
    Glocktopia
    It's out of my hands. Joe has called to let his sis-in-law know about what they said. He's leaving it up to her whether she'll share with Joe's brother or not.

    Whether it was the right thing to do or not, and whether I agree with it or not, it's been done.
     
    Last edited: Aug 17, 2012
  14. Diesel_Bomber

    Diesel_Bomber

    Joined:
    Oct 25, 2008
    Messages:
    9,599
    Likes Received:
    5,978
    That's the answer right there. If they aren't going to show up and cause trouble, then delete the email and get on with life. Don't concern yourself with trouble that isn't headed your direction. Life tends to throw enough at a person as it is.
     
  15. DaneA

    DaneA

    Joined:
    Mar 7, 2011
    Messages:
    2,501
    Likes Received:
    0
    Location:
    Chattanooga
    I disagree. A wedding is about two people joining. The family is a spectator invited to witness this.
     
  16. Mrs.Cicero

    Mrs.Cicero Wayward Member

    Joined:
    Aug 13, 2004
    Messages:
    4,811
    Likes Received:
    841
    Location:
    far from home
    Passing the BS along would be adding flame to the fire. Since the troublemakers aren't coming, just let it go. You'll have enough on your plate without the added stress of being blamed for telling the brother being talked about, what is being said about him. And frankly, he likely already knows what a jerk his relatives are and what they say about him anyway. And if he doesn't, then why ruin his day?

    Mrs.Cicero
     
  17. racerford

    racerford

    Joined:
    Apr 22, 2003
    Messages:
    5,158
    Likes Received:
    705
    Location:
    DFW area
    Would this be an appropriate to consider the three S's?
     
  18. ray9898

    ray9898

    Joined:
    May 29, 2001
    Messages:
    14,755
    Likes Received:
    2,290
    Location:
    Georgia
    I would just thank them for not coming.
     
  19. *ASH*

    *ASH* FURBANITE

    Joined:
    Jan 12, 2008
    Messages:
    5,038
    Likes Received:
    5,364
    Location:
    I REAP what YOU sow
  20. GLOCK17DB9

    GLOCK17DB9

    Joined:
    Dec 30, 2011
    Messages:
    1,285
    Likes Received:
    1
    Location:
    Troy, MI
    I'd let it go. don't let it spoil the happiest celebration of your life before children! Congrats and good luck to both of you!:wavey: