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What to tell the wife.

Discussion in 'Okie Memorial Area' started by okie, Oct 23, 2012.

  1. okie

    okie GT Mayor

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    If your wife tells you that you spend too much money here's what to tell her. "I think I keep my spending within reason ! Reason #1 is I like to camp, reason #2 I like to Boat, reason#3 I like Guns, reason#4 I like motorcycles, so as you see I do keep my spending within reason:supergrin::rofl:
     
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  2. GlockinNJ

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    "I am the man you married. Would you rather me spend the money at Cabelas or High Heels?"
     

  3. redbaron007

    redbaron007 Some Dude Lifetime Member

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    If it were really that simple!!!! :rofl: :supergrin: :animlol:


    :wavey:

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  4. Bilbo Bagins

    Bilbo Bagins Slacked jawed

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    :rofl:

    I have almost the same line.

    Wife - Why do you buy so much gun and camping stuff

    Me- At least you know I'm not spending money it on a mistress.
     
  5. okie

    okie GT Mayor

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    It isn't that simple:alex::rofl:
     
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    rhikdavis U.S. Veteran

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    When did you get married, Okie? Congratz!!
     
  7. redbaron007

    redbaron007 Some Dude Lifetime Member

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    My thoughts too! :supergrin:


    :wavey:

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  8. M2 Carbine

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    When my Wife and I were first Married, a small thing came up about money.
    I told her, fighting about money is one of the biggest problems in a marrage, but it won't be with us. We will never argue about money.
    Simple, if we have it we can spend it. If we don't have it we can't spend it. But we weren't going to obsess about what we don't have and we will enjoy what we do have, each other.

    Somehow a "house rule" came about that if we came to an impass, like buying our second ten acres of land, I would make the decision and we would hope I was right.
    As I recall, this me making the final decision rule was my Wife's idea. She thought I was more "worldly" about many things and I would probably make better decision.
    I didn't especially like this rule but in a impass where you just can't agree someone has to make the decision and hope you are right.
    Over the yearsthis system worked great.

    We also stumbled into another money system that worked great.
    Each payday we got a allowance that was personal "mad money". This money was not to be spent on clothes, haircuts, car gas, etc. It could be spent on each other for like a Christmas present, etc, but was mainly personal money, like me buing gun stuff, going to the gun show, etc.
    So there was never such as, you can't buy a new gun because we need a new washing machine. The "house money" buys the new washer.

    Our personal money could be 'loaned" to the house or to each other but must be paid back ASAP, WITHOUT FAIL.
    Great system .

    And one other perk is when I bought my Wife something, the gift was from me, not just baught from "house money".


    I usually had a few hundred put aside but my Wife usually had a few thousand in her mad money envelope.:supergrin:
     
  9. okie

    okie GT Mayor

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    I didn't :supergrin:
     
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    kirgi08 Watcher. Silver Member

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    Dang it Mark.'08. :rant:
     
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  11. dango

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    The wife and I have been married over 27 years.
    We have (PRIORITIES) that are taken care of , bills , repairs,
    food , etc. !
    Then we have (Checking) Enough cash to handle the un-fore-seen events......!
    Then we have (SAVINGS) and it does painfully grow , one dollar at a time.....!
    Then we have (HUMAN-NATURE) , wants , desires , ETC...!

    If I want something , we sit down and discuss everything..!
    She , gives me 50 reasons why I should not buy another gun.
    I sit and totally agree with everything she says , we do NOT argue or debate , just agree....!
    After we are done and she returns to I-PAD and is consumed
    by Your face tube , U-book , whatever , GOSSIP...( I ),
    while she is pre-occupied , I go buy that gun and life goes on!
    :supergrin:
     
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    Edit: Removed and started a new thread so I don't hijack this one.
     
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  13. John Rambo

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    What to say?

    "Who the hell gave you access to my finances?"

    Separate finances are one of the keys to a happy relationship.
     
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    Bushflyr ʇno uıƃuɐɥ ʇsnɾ Millennium Member

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    She doesn't hassle me about my toys, I don't hassle her about her shoes. I sense a long happy marriage ahead. :supergrin:
     
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    Clutch Cargo Amsterdam Haze

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    My minister of finance will not like those reasons. That's why I have an unknown (to her) bank account.:whistling:
     
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    Mrs.Cicero Wayward Member

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    We use the same system for non-financial decisions. He has to listen to my opinion, but the decision is his. He doesn't roll his eyes, I don't say I told you so, and it works great. For the money things, though, since I do the finances and the taxes, he just asks if we can afford it right now, or how long before we can, and I tell him. He uses part of his stipends for mad money... he tells me how much he's spending, and I use the rest to fix the house/build the garage/etc. I like the idea of me having my own mad money though, because it does bug me to buy gifts for him using the house account.
     
  17. zoyter2

    zoyter2 Yeah, so what?

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    I don't know about everyone, but it certainly has been a key to my 30 year marriage. :wavey:
     
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    wjv Zip It Stan Lee.. . .

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    #5 "Shut the heck up and get back to scrubbing the floor"
     
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    When we got married I made a vow to the wife that I would never have more guns than she had pairs of shoes :rofl:

    She was doing some cleaning out of "her" walk in closet and proudly proclaimed she had gotten rid of 2 old pairs of shoes. She now had 2 open slots in one of her shoe racks so she needed to go shopping and get 2 new pair to fill the voids.

    I just asked "Should I go count the open slots in my gun safe"?

    She just said "Forget I even brought it up". I did notice a couple weeks later there were NO open slots in the shoe racks :shocked:
     
  20. John Rambo

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    Question. How do you handle the joint account end of it? For things like dates, furniture, etc. that benefit you both?