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What to say to help support a LEO who...

Discussion in 'Cop Talk' started by Grayson, Oct 6, 2011.

  1. Grayson

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    ...has been wounded in the line of duty, but returned fire and killed the perp? The LEO wasn't seriously hurt ( less than an inch of difference in shot placement though and...:shocked: )

    I should add that I don't live in a big metro area where this is an everyday occurrence...I honestly can't remember the last time we had a police shooting around here.

    I don't even know the LEO involved personally, I just met him once while he was working security at a school fundraiser a while back. Still, I felt the need to call the office, or send a card or something - and I knew it was the right thing to do when I heard that he was having a hard time coping with the stress of the event.

    FWIW, all I have is media to go by but it looks to be a textbook case of a justified shoot. Still, putting someone in the ground isn't the sort of thing most people can just shrug off the same as bumping into someone and making them spill their coffee. And it was a "domestic disturbabce" call and a relative of the perp was there during the shooting...

    So yeah, totally clueless here, ideas appreciated. :dunno:
     
  2. Sharky7

    Sharky7 Boomshakalaka

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    The aftermath of a police involved shooting can be pretty lonely and you feel isolated. A simple thank you card or get better card from someone in the community can go a long way. Just send it to the PD.
     

  3. Ajon412

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  4. Breadman03

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    I think the most important thing is to express your support and appreciation.
     
  5. MeefZah

    MeefZah Cover is Code 3

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    I'd call, he is probably on admin leave, so leave a voicemail at the dept. A simple "thank you, you are in my thoughts" would go a long way. A card is a good suggestion but there is something more personal in a phone call, even if it is a recorded message you end up leaving.
     
  6. Sam Spade

    Sam Spade Staff Member Lifetime Member

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    "I'm glad you're alright."
     
  7. ray9898

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    I would go with the card. I have always deeply appreciated the thought behind the card for the "thank you's" I have received.
     
  8. CAcop

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    A card with "hope you are doing better/get well soon" would be just about right.
     
  9. Patchman

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    ^^^^ What those guys have suggested.
     
  10. BamaTrooper

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  11. redbrd

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    Tell him "good job". After a shooting like that he will go through several interviews regardless of how they are conducted they are trying to determine whether or not it was a good shoot or not, and what the liability is going to be. So the best thing you can say to him is "good job" or you did the rights thing.
    Making to big a deal out of it will make him feel awkward don't treat him like a victim because that it stupid, he knew when he signed on and put that gun on that he may need to use it one day.
     
  12. JBaird22

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    A I'm, my family, my friends, whatever is applicable, glad you're okay and we appreciate your service to our community is about all you can say.

    After an incident in which you fought and prevailed at the expense of another human's life can cause emotions to range from survivor guilt to fear of prosecution to people not understanding. While the rest of us would say to ourselves "the guy got what he bought" this officer may not be feeling that way. Its best to keep it simple, supporting and kinda vague really.
     
  13. Grayson

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  14. PuroMexicano

    PuroMexicano VIVA MEXICO !!!

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    a copy of this thread where we all send him good wishes and a speedy recovery, physical and emotional.