Tough Love vs. Spanking Most of America's populace thinks it very improper to spank children, so I have tried other methods to control our kids when they have one of "those moments". One that I found very effective is for me to just take the child for a car ride and talk. They usually calm down and stop misbehaving after our little car ride together. I've included the photo below of one of my sessions, with our son, in case you would like to use the technique. It's very effective!