.38 Special 148gr HBWC. 750 FPS, no recoil, fair hitting power.
I'm running these in my airweight right now. Recoiled like range rounds...still snappy out of an airweight, but not punishing.
Agree, missed the gun type, but imo,snubs are for professionals. Smaller guns with short bbls are just harder to shoot well. A ruger 3" sp101 is as short/small a gun I woud recommend to a new shooter.You're getting a home defense gun for your wife, who's recoil sensitive enough that you're working that into your ammo criteria, and the gun you're getting her is a snubbie? You're starting in the wrong place. Get her a ex-police Smith 10 or 64 with a heavy barrel. It's not a CCW gun, so overall size isn't an issue. The longer barrel will give her more sight radius, and added weight will absorb recoil. It has one more round. Finally, I'd trust Smith over Taurus.
Once you have a gun, buy a few boxes of different types of ammo, and find her recoil threshold.
But if they can't control the recoil to make good hits the rest of the time, are they, like, going to magically become a more proficient shooter able to make fast accurate hits under stress when they could not otherwise do so?Your best bet is let her practice with wadcutters and load the hottest +p rounds for actual carry or home defense. If she actually has to use the weapon she will not notice the recoil with all of her adrenaline pumping trough her system. I have seen this time and time again investigating shootings. Many times the shooter does not remember how many rounds were fired or even if the weapon in their hands was fired.