Spouse or career first.

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  1. pizza_pablo

    pizza_pablo USN Retired

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    Close.
    God first.
    Family second.
    All else will work out.
     
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  2. Haldor

    Haldor Formerly retired EE.

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    She was true to her salt. You are a lucky man to have known her.
     

  3. Borg Warner

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    Depends on who the spouse is. In the case of John Mitchell, he made the wrong choice when he chose his spouse in the first place. That woman was a B**** on wheels. Two years after he met her demands they got divorced.

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  4. fg17

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    This.
    Family first of course, but that what I was thinking. I’m a minimalist, if I didn’t have a wife and family (kids are out of the house now) I would be happy living in a van down by the river.
    We just had a guy quit a good job because his wife couldn’t stand him working nights. We’ve had other guys quit because their wife’s didn’t like the mandatory OT. Seems weird to me.

    That being said my jobs and lifestyle have been hard on my marriage. I’ve been with my wife for 32 years. I’ve worked a full time trade job and part time security/bouncing jobs. I’ve probably worked a dozen different shift schedules. Almost all nights by choice.
     
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    Anyone who picks their own narcissism over their spouse has some serious issues.
     
  6. fastbolt

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    Which one do you want to be married to longer?

    Which one can take half of everything you own in a divorce?
     
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    I sometimes work overtime to avoid being home. Does that count?
     
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    Personally, I attribute working a lot of OT and also having worked a lot of nights during the early years of my marriage to helping extend the shelf life of my marriage.

    Absence makes the heart grow fonder, etc, etc.

    Being able to exert some semblance of authority and control over events and others during the course of working LE may also help provide some minor relief for married cops, and especially those who are the parents of teenagers .... :p

    Meaning some of those things you can't experience at home ...
    :outtahere:
     
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  9. Glockman4

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    Men should always focus on career/money first. For women, it’s the opposite. Don’t tell the feminists that though.

    Women come and go but you’ll always need resources.
     
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  10. Mr Meeseeks

    Mr Meeseeks

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    X2. And I’m salaried...
     
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    Yea but there’s nothing that’s going to change it. That’s why you look out for yourself first and take no prisoners in relationships.
     
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    Respectfully your opinion not mine.
     
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  13. pizza_pablo

    pizza_pablo USN Retired

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    Fair enough.
    No offense meant.
     
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    None taken sir.
     
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  15. Hannie Caulder

    Hannie Caulder Diva extraordinaire

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    And then they stay in Washington and make 10 times more money as lobbyists.



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    Play your cards right and you won't have to make the choice.
     
  17. Sharkey

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    As so often in life, we ask the wrong question. The correct answer is God first (not talking about religion mods). Work is about 4th on the list. 2 and 3 work themselves out after you get the first one right.
     
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    My wife absolutely comes first. I left LE because she couldn't stand the person it was making me become and I lived for that job. I have told every employer since then that the family comes first and this is "just a replaceable job". Hasn't stopped me from making a good living or moving up the chain, just puts a ceiling on how high I can go. No one ever said "I wish I had worked more" when laying in their death bed.
     
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  19. pizza_pablo

    pizza_pablo USN Retired

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    That doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't working less.
     
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    Absolutely..

    There is no question in my mind here..
     
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