Someone close to you dies & 2 funeral homes in town...

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Lakerunner, Feb 11, 2010.

  1. Lakerunner

    Lakerunner

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    do you price shop the 2, or go to which ever is more familar & pay whatever price they ask?
     
  2. davew83

    davew83 hhhhhhhhmmmmmmm

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    price shop, funeral homes etc... prey on people going through the grief of loosing a loved one. They are as bad if not worse then the stereotypical used car dealer.
     

  3. DR. HOUSE

    DR. HOUSE Everybody Lies

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    you go to who you think will take care of your needs. Your saying goodbye to a loved one for the last time. Price should be reasonable but not the first thing on your mind.

    Sorry for your loss
     
  4. Lone Wolf8634

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    Ummm. never had the occasion to do so.

    When my Grandmother died, Grandpa had her cremated. Gave the ashes to me. I'm to hold them until his time comes. And spread them as per their wishes. No funeral, no service. Just me(and my wife should I choose to do so)
     
  5. janice6

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    Price should be a factor to consider. Remember, a funeral is only for the living, not for the deceased. This is a way for you to show one of two things. Either you think so highly of the deceased that "money is no object", or, You are trying to impress the attendees with your wealth.

    Remember, the deceased has nothing to gain by either of the two choices you make.
     
  6. Glenn129

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    The time to buy a casket and such is before you die.
     
  7. hatidua

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    I went through this with my fathers death and the various things he'd said regarding funerals and death over the years had made an impression on me: cheapest pine box available.

    Yes, I could have paid a LOT more than I did. And if my dad had been looking down from some other place, he'd have been wholly disappointed in my actions had I spent one penny more than absolutely necessary.

    Make the most of the time while they are living. Once they are dead, the train has left the station.
     
  8. Ol Timer

    Ol Timer ↓ hog hunter ↓ Millennium Member

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    Go with the one with the best reputation. Reputation is earned.
     
  9. Brian Lee

    Brian Lee Drop those nuts

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    When a relative of mine died a few years back, we cremated her, held an informal wake in her house with about 30 of the people who knew her best. Later on, her husband held another little get together with just her mom & brothers & sisters, and they poured the ashes into a lake she used to enjoy going to.

    The whole thing was a lot more meaningful to all of us than a formalized funeral where a hired preacher who never met her speaks about what a great person she was.
    Funeral home charges = 0, except for cremation fees.


    A few years later when my brother died we did the same thing again, and I'm glad we did.
     
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    Sorry for your loss.

    I would go with a place you are more comfortable with. Generally places, especially so close in proximity, will be pretty close price wise. But, if you have had experience with one place I would go with them.
     
  11. Max5

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    That was a fine send off. Hope to do it the same way when my time comes.
     
  12. KiloBravo

    KiloBravo NRA Life Member

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    I am very sorry for both of your losses as well as the OP's. I will send out prayers for all families involved.
     
  13. IndyGunFreak

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    This is a pet peeve of mine.. I think its important for the living to have funeral arrangements made. This keeps your grieving relatives from having to figure this stuff out after your passing. I don't mean this in a morbid way, but when I almost bought it a few years ago, one of the things I thought about in the hospital was how devastated my Mom would be, etc.. and I wouldn't want her spending a ton of money on my funeral. As it is now I've taken care of it and now nobody needs to worry about it. All they have to do is show up and act like they'll miss me.. :)

    Seriously, I think its something people should think about, young and old. Edit: I agree about using a preacher that knows you, rather than someone preaching a generic funeral. I'm sure our family pastor would step in and handle that role.

    IGF
     
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  14. bayshtyshorty

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    +1 My brother was killed in a car accident in 2003, we went to the funeral home with the most class (it was right in town too) and it was only about 10% more in the end...didn't care though.

    Take care of the task at hand and figure out the money end last, sorry for your loss.
     
  15. cowboywannabe

    cowboywannabe you savvy?

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    funeral parlors (i dont call them homes, who lives there?) are known for raping the living when they are grief stricken. try to have somebody less attached help you with the funeral decisions.
     
  16. Gallium

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    Well, I'd be dead. What difference would it make if I wanted a metal casket, but instead they shoved me thru a grinder?

    'Drew
     
  17. INJoker

    INJoker Simply Charming

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    QFT.

    My family is under strict instructions to cheap it out to the max. I'm going to be dead. I'd rather know, while I'm alive, that when I kick it, they won't go out and blow a wad on some stupid overblown sob-fest.

    If anything, they should keep the money they would spend on a funeral and go to Vegas for a weekend.
     
  18. DWARREN123

    DWARREN123 Grumpy Old Guy

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    Always price shop but do it for the service they provide. Good service costs money and is usually worth it.
     
  19. Davegrave

    Davegrave Dapper Dan

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    I'd be happy as could be if my family was allowed to just throw me in the woods for the bears to eat.

    I don't see spending money on a funeral AT ALL.

    ETA, sorry. I forgot this was from someone specific. But seriously, shop for best price man, it doesn't mean you love the person any less. And sorry for your loss.
     
  20. railfancwb

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    When my wife died, I took her to the one to which she had taken her mom. I involved our adult children in discussion of the service, and had a preacher we both knew do the service. Bought a double wide plot close to where her mother and grandmother are buried...but I've told the children to have me cremated and sprinkle the ashes from the observation car on the Cumbres & Toltec Scenic Railroad (CATS RR). They can have my date added to the double wide marker...and drive my would-be grave robber crazy.