So what would you do if you caught your wife with another man?

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  1. The Father

    The Father

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    Wait a second here, you have a beach house?
    Just a second hold on...……...Ok...told my wife I would be back in a few days or week, something came up.
     
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  2. orangejeep06

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    This one is easy, i’d leave her and find me an attorney. Why would anyone risk their freedom by hurting their soon to be ex? There is no woman worth going to prison for. Like that saying goes “ No matter how hot she is someone somewhere is sick of her ****. I learned alot from my first marriage.
     

  3. JoeCitizen

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    I would be crushed. Devastated completely. But can't imagine turning violent on either one of them.

    We're 6 months into our marriage. My last one lasted 30 years before I couldn't take it anymore and broke mentally. This marriage so far seems so beautiful, right and equal it would likely cause me to never again go down any relationship path for the rest of my life. As was said in an earlier post, if she has fooled me so completely there wouldn't be anything to salvage. Also, if it happened this early it would seem as though it is part of her nature to do such a thing. Probably always would be.

    If she caught me? Probably throw a thing or two at me, maybe briefly lash out with her fists but mostly cry. Then she would want me gone... for good. Can't see her trusting or wanting me again. She has been through more bad stuff in life than anyone else I've ever known. For me to do something like that to her would likely damage her in ways I refuse to imagine.
     
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  4. IamtheNRA

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    WERD. Going after the other man is stupid. It's your WIFE that's to blame. I'd be like, "Enjoy the ride, dude...I'm out." It's not worth spending the rest of my life in prison. I'd just move on...with all the money, of course. :D
     
  5. BradD

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    Yeah, it seems like he'd probably keep on bringing the pain, so fleeing is understandable.
     
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  6. NMG26

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    I'd spit Beechnut in that dudes eye
     
  7. Gray Dood

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    I'd do what I did 32 years ago when I did catch my first wife cheating.

    Took off my wedding ring, put it in her h
     
  8. Bus007

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    Hey Joe, by Jimi Hendrix - a step by step on how to handle the situation.
     
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  9. ReaPer105

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    Strictly from a financial perspective I'd have to kill her. Divorce would be too expensive.:innocent:
     
  10. Hoochrunners

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    First call lawyer. Second thank him and tell him what he’s in for as her mom has not cut the umbilical cord yet.
     
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  11. slamdunc

    slamdunc JAFO

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    ^^Exactly this^^
     
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  12. TheDreadnought

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    This.

    If I did catch her, it would be all about the context. If it were a drunken mistake or one time bad judgment, I’d forgive her and move on.

    If she were unhappy with me and/or found a better deal, I’d let her go.

    I love her and want her to be happy. I don’t want her faking her way through a relationship with me. If she’s not into it, she’s free to leave any time.

    I’m in my early 40s, in decent shape, have a good job, and no kids. I won’t be hurting for female companionship if I’m single again.
     
  13. ScarFace88

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    With some of the women I've dated, that could have been a very real possibility.
     
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    I would go Edward Scissorhands on him

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    Not really -
     
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    Like I did when my sister would grab the bag of chips I was eating.

    YOU TOUCHED THEM LAST!!!!!!!!!!!


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    Celebrating 19 years married in a few weeks...we were together 9 years before that.

    Way too many questions to ask to know what I would do. Do I know the person? Has this been going on for a while or was it a one time thing?

    I've told my wife for years...if you would rather be with someone else than me...let me know..get the divorce and move on.

    Truth be told my dead MIL was nothing more than a cheap white trash trailer park whore (and this is being nice). My wife would probably realize pretty quick I would compare her to her mom...I don't know where she would take it from there but something tells me it would not end well.

    Mental note: need to book the hotel hot tub suite :)
     
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    Slackinoff Bathed in lavender and gasoline

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    Could you imagine the horror of having that walk in while in the act of a lil adultery? *shivers
     
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    Willie D told me to let a ho be a ho. I ain't cryin' or dyin' over none of you hoes.
     
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    Slackinoff Bathed in lavender and gasoline

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    I remeber as a kid Mom joking, but kinda not joking with Dad on what she would do to him if he decided to ever be so foolish. It involved a very tall and thin Stilletto heel in the middle of the night.....Mom was terrifying like that.
     
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  20. redrick

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    The first woman that I dated after I caught my wife and we divorced , told me that her brother was in prison for killing his best friend and shooting his wife when he found out that they were having an affair . His best friend worked for him also . He found out that they were going to the beach ( about 2 hrs. from home ) . Found out where they were staying , borrowed a gun from a cop friend and drove to Va. Beach and shot them . She said he got more time for shooting his wife , than for killing her lover . He served 10 years and was released during the time we were dating . He had a new girlfriend as soon as he got out .