So what would you do if you caught your wife with another man?

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  1. thewitt

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    #walkaway
     
  2. IamtheNRA

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    Yeah, pretty much the same here. I love my wife and I want to see her happy. I've told her that if she ever grows tired of me, she is free to leave. I'd miss her, but wouldn't be angry about it. I'm my own man. We have no kids, so there's nothing to worry about on that front.
     

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    I would shoot his seeing eye dog!!!
     
  4. BradD

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    I assume I'd do what most people do when the spouse has an affair.

    According to Marriage Builders, which has the best insight of any source I know, the majority (80%, IIRC) of couples try to put their lives back together after an affair.

    That process entails a mountain of pain as the wayward spouse goes through a few episodes of sneaking around until that relationship runs its course. It is just a dating relationship after all, and most of those don't turn into marriage.

    Everybody thinks they'll react with divorce papers or violence, but most don't. I think one of the reasons is that affairs don't happen in a vacuum. When the betrayed spouse really thinks hard about the marriage (probably should've been doing that earlier...), it becomes apparent that he or she bears some responsibility for priming the pump for an affair to happen.
     
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  5. Rotn1

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    Agree.
    Back in the day, wifey was a hottie. She was constantly being hit on by women.
    Try as I might I could never convince her
     
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  6. Quijibo

    Quijibo King Doofus.

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    Meh. After we were done moving her stuff out I'd probably go buy a new motorcycle or guns or something.
     
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    View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4lmW2tZP2kU

    I think the following dialogue is the funniest part of the entire movie:

    Lawrence: I think if I were a millionaire I could hook that up too because chicks dig dudes with money.

    Peter: Well not all chicks.

    Lawrence: The kind of chicks that would double-up on a dude like me do.

    Peter: Good point.
     
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  8. redrick

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    I've been there . I tried to fight him , but he would not get out of the bed and I didn't want to fight a naked man . She ran into the closet . I was more mad at her than him , he didn't know me . I would like to thank him now and shake his hand , my life has been so much happier without her and she is as big as a house now . I have seen a few of my friends get a divorce after they have retired and lost half of their pension . I am glad I got rid of mine young , before that happened to me .
     
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  9. Gun Shark

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    Not married however, I’d try and save the marriage, if I could. If I couldn’t I’d divorce her. I’m guessing the deal breaker would be, if it’s just sex... and no STDs it’s salvageable... if it’s an actual second relationship, it is not.
     
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    Check the top of the dresser to see how much money is there.

    -Mike
     
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    Not sure. Probably try to work things out in the end. But I would not make the same mistake I have seen several friends make.

    I’m not the one leaving the house.

    Too many guys leave the house when they haven’t done a thing wrong and end up with no house or any their stuff.
     
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  14. Hannie Caulder

    Hannie Caulder Diva extraordinaire

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    !


    LOL!


    Pervs.


    At one point I started blaming myself for my ex-husband's infidelity, thinking that maybe I had failed as a wife to make him happy. I was even considering forgiving him and reconciling, thinking it was just an isolated moment of weakness on his part. Then I found out he had fathered a 2 year old child with this woman while we were married, and that was it for me.


    I did. I moved back into my house in North Myrtle Beach where I lived before we were married.
    Then I divorced him and took the beach house where I live now. He kept the big house in Charleston.
     
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  15. Bradley T

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    Get a photograph first thing for legal purposes. I'd want to kill, but would just leave and let them simmer. My character's still intact. Any reprisal would only work against me. It would really hurt, but life in general has a pretty sizable percentage of hurt anyway. I'd go buy a nice over n under, a motorcycle, new bait casting rig or something.
     
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    Over the years I have had several friends who caught their wives cheating on them. Hell, it happened to me. One guy is still in prison because he killed the boyfriend, one did time for damn near beating his wife's boyfriend to death with a baseball bat. In hindsight, both guys know they screwed up bigtime, and should have just walked. I didn't walk, I got a lawyer and fought like hell to get my son, and I did. Has I lost my cool and reacted violently, I might not be here, but I have always been a fanatic about self-control.

    As a bartender I have known lots of guys who were cheated on by their wives, and advised them all the same thing. Women are going to do what they are going to do, with whomever they want. Getting a weapon to settle things only makes it worse. Get a lawyer if you can't or don't want to work things out. You can always make more money, you can never replace your freedom.
     
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    I would just take all her money and leave with her sister.
     
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    At least i would know i was the issue then
     
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    Hannie Caulder Diva extraordinaire

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  20. Struggle_Russ

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    Hopefully something rational like a trip to the bank and then a call to a lawyer.
     
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