So...what happens?

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  1. sawgrass

    sawgrass

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    You think you find "the one", you commit, and damn, almost overnight
    behavior changes. No goodnight kiss, seems a little distant, you know...

    We just bought a house together, maybe it's stress, maybe it's the move...

    Why do couples change "seemingly on a dime", from one day to the next?

    Women, (I'm a woman), use affection as a tool? Flat wrong IMO.
     
  2. OKgetdown

    OKgetdown Dumb Ape

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    How long has it been going on?

    If it hasnt been very long, dont worry about it. People are moody. May not be anything to do with you at all.

    Could be work, a little depression, ect.
     

  3. Lone Wolf8634

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    Isolated incident? Continuing behavior?

    Sometimes familiarity breeds contempt. Most couples go through stages where everything BUT their SO is on their mind. Been married 21 years. BTDT

    Do something "Special" for him, You might be surprised at the results.
     
  4. Lone_Wolfe

    Lone_Wolfe Sandbox Refugee CLM

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    Have you tried asking what's wrong?
     
  5. sawgrass

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    NO FAIR WOLFE, you know me...
    Damn yea, the answer everything is fine...
    Trying to convince myself, time is healing.

    I hope so, or I'm going to be the pissy one.
     
  6. itsgottabeapit

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    Yeh what he says, if its been a while. You might want to try to bring it up in a non-confrontational way.
     
  7. Lone Wolf8634

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    So...... Whats wrong honey?:crying:


    ETA: Your really gonna have to do something to girly up your avatar. You keep gettin referred to as "He":rofl:
     
  8. Lone_Wolfe

    Lone_Wolfe Sandbox Refugee CLM

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    Don't ask. :tongueout:

    If "Lady ohthe Sand" doesn't tell them I'm a girl the avatar likely won't help either. And I ain't taking what I have down no time soon.... :wavey:

    :hugs:
     
  9. sawgrass

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    Well Amen. Lone_Wolfe is a Woman.

    I OP Sawgrass is a woman.

    For that matter, my partner that now, I'm like, WTF is ALSO a woman.
    Let's just "come out on GT".
    That being said guys, please mind your manners.
    I'm as confused as anyone else.

    So, why DOES commitment seem to change things????

    FWIW, Wolfe I like my parts too.
    No changes....
     
  10. Lone Wolf8634

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    I will, with all my strength continue to resist the pull of a certain smily in the list. Its now taking a superhuman effort.:supergrin:
     
  11. sawgrass

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    Behave yourself...
    Life is life...
    People are people...

    So????
     
  12. Lone Wolf8634

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    I am B-having myself. :tongueout:
     
  13. holyjohnson

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    think it has something to do with when your seeing each other and living alone.
    there is anticipation in "getting" to see that person,but coming home after a long day a nightmare commute.its not easy to appreciate who`s there waiting for you.
    you both have commitments now and responsibilities to each other.
    sometimes it takes a little time to get used to LIVING with someone even in a different setting.the little things can be really annoying.(not that you`r annoying her,you know what i mean)
    give it some time and see if it gets better.
    either way good luck.
    and congrats on coming out (on here) :supergrin:
     
  14. sawgrass

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    Funny "coming out " here, I'm out in all aspects of my life.
     
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    I love Glock Talk.
     
  16. Gallium

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    Saw,

    I think (hope) in the long run you both will be ok. Seems like a lot of stuff thrown together on short notice (talking about the house). I have to constantly steel & remind myself to be "cool" with my family whenever I have something "big" dealing with, because the relationship I have with my family (and esp spouse) almost always suffers.

    You are both teachers, so you know how to think and reason things thru. Give it a little thought, and a little time. Very few relationships work if the constant nurturing and investment in the relationship are not maintained.

    Best of luck.

    'Drew
     
  17. Steve0853

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    I did not stay at a Holiday Inn Express last night, but I have many years experience at trying to read a woman's mind.

    I would disagree strongly with the posters who say "Why don't you just ASK her what is wrong." I can already give you the answer to that question.......Frowny face and then "Nothing"..

    She already knows she is acting goofy......and ONLY God knows why. All you can do is ride it out.

    IF....and big IF....there is someone else, other signs will quickly follow and you'll have your answer. If there is no one else, then she'll cycle through this spell and everything will be OK........till next time.

    Good Luck.....and congrats on the house and everything....
     
  18. walt cowan

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    why worry? her replacement is in her sr. year.
     
  19. Lone_Wolfe

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    I'm not sure what woman's mind you've been reading but I can tell you that not all women react like you said. I'm a woman and if my man asks me what's wrong I'm going to tell him what's bothering me.