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sister fell off the wagon

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by gjk5, Oct 21, 2012.

  1. gjk5

    gjk5 Pinche Gringo

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    some of you may remember my thread about my disfunctional sister and my nephew.

    She fell off the wagon after a month and a half or so of AA today. Just disgusted.

    I am sure I will get some "it's a process" or "it's to be expected" crap from the whole alcoholism is a disease crowd.

    I don't buy it. She is weak, lame and does not care about her son. He is 13, I am considering just asking him if he'd rather live with us or go to his grandparents. He doesn't deserve this.

    What a piece of crap she is.
     
  2. *ASH*

    *ASH* FURBANITE

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    wont get argument from me i got a dumb ***** sister too .

    BUT alcoholism is a disease and does run in genetics .
     

  3. Bruce M

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    It would a great thing if you could facilitate a better home environment for her son either with you or someone else in the family.

    The faults of a family member will seem much, much less when they are gone.
     
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  4. concretefuzzynuts

    concretefuzzynuts Brew Crew

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  5. jeepinbandit

    jeepinbandit Sgt. USMC

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    Seen it before. People have to have their own will to quit. My aunt was heavily into drugs and alcohol had cancer multiple times people tried to help her she about drained my grandmother dry as far as money and whatnot.
     
  6. dbcooper

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    I had a guy tell me early on in AA that the only thing you can be sure an alcoholic will do is drink. Hope she gets back on track, I'm a few months away from 20 yrs.
     
  7. NeverMore1701

    NeverMore1701 Fear no Evil Platinum Member

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    I try to not drink for a week or so every now and then. Rarely works.
     
  8. *ASH*

    *ASH* FURBANITE

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    horse **** . :rofl::rofl: you are always posting 30 times a week about drunk and drinking lol
     
  9. dango

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    Indifference is the key here and not disgust . I'm not goin to preach to you but you have no control over anybody but you , yourself and that's it..!

    Give her all the rope she needs to hang herself but pray she doesn't..! You are helpless but (DISGUST) is not the answer..!

    She must find her own way , her very bottom and there is nothing you can do but wait and not let her (HANG-HERSELF).!
    Do nothing but wait except to stop any self destructive action.

    Don't count anybody down and out , you don't have the right.
    Just be there , pray , observe and wait..! Nothing no-one can do but her but do be there..!

    Do not think anyone is hopeless cause I know better , people CAN change , just be there just in case. Someone has got to be rational so be just that and observe.........! Can you live with anything less than that ?
     
  10. NeverMore1701

    NeverMore1701 Fear no Evil Platinum Member

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    Like I said, rarely works :supergrin:
     
  11. janice6

    janice6 Silver Member

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    You have an alcoholic Sister and I have a Liberal Sister.

    I don't know which is worse. Maybe you can treat alcoholics and make them better.
     
  12. Manofprint

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    Nice Congrats

    If she is not ready. She is not ready
     
  13. dango

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    A little story is needed here so's here it is:

    The woman I fell in love with had this same problem , yes , my very own wife. 4 DUI's and all the worry and exspence that goes with it...!
    After one of many sleepless nights , I told her , I will not live like this any more..! I left..! She pleaded with me not to leave but I left and said show me , proof , I need proof.

    I gave her that last chance .! I've been happily married 27 years now. My wife has not had a drink in 27 years also !

    If one has a sound , strong reason to change , anything is possible and damn , I'm worth it , simple.......! She is one lucky woman , for she has ME...! :supergrin:
     
  14. Scott3670

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    My doctor advised me to cut back on my drinking. I decided that a fair compromise would be to continue to have my nightly beverage, but just cut back on the strength (from 2 shots to 1). And to be fair, I don't drink more than 5 nights a week.
     
  15. concretefuzzynuts

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    There are 5 nights in a week??? I'm drinking way too much.
     
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  16. gjk5

    gjk5 Pinche Gringo

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    what does that even mean? we're all just supposed to wait around until "she's ready"?
     
  17. holesinpaper

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    Well at least she doesn't smoke pot.
     
  18. Drain You

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    What I expected:

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    Sorry for your trouble, never been there with a sibling but I have with a parent and a friend or 2.
     
  19. gjk5

    gjk5 Pinche Gringo

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    I'd buy her all the dope she wanted if she quit drinking.
     
  20. Angry Fist

    Angry Fist Dehumanizer® Lifetime Member

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    So much for the Days That End In "Y" arguement.