Give up trying to help her become prepared to use a gun defensively, that is? About five years ago I helped my Mom buy a .38 revolver, and she got her CCW permit. She never carried the gun, and never practiced. I tried to get her out when I came to visit every few months, but she always told me the gun was "too heavy" and "the trigger was hard to pull." So I helped her sell that revolver and get an LCR at a local gun show. She never fired it, never went to a class I pointed her to, and so this last weekend I kind of dragged her to an indoor range to get her some trigger time. Well, the recoil of the LCR was simply too much for her (I suspected that might be the case when she bought it.) That, combined with the noise of the guns firing all around her made her very nervous and uncomfortable, so she went out into the store and I finished up about a 30-minute session. I really want her to be able to shoot a gun confidently, but I'm beginning to think she's just too nervous, mentally, to handle it. I think she's being a trooper, especially since she saw her 2nd husband negligently shoot himself in the head and die in front of her 40 years ago. But I don't know if she can be an armed citizen - even if I want her to be one (and she 'thinks' she wants to be one...) Should I try to get her to shoot a .22LR, just so she has some gun to protect herself with? I think maybe if I could get her out to an outdoor range, where things are quieter, and let her shoot a gun with almost no recoil, than I can eliminate some of the fear that she is feeling about guns right now. Or should I concede that she is not meant to have a gun for self-defense, and look at some other method?