I think one of the reasons that that our marriage works and I'm able to wear the pants is that beside the fact that we love and respect each other is that we married when we were in our seventies and have a prenup. The house is mine. We are both financially independent. We were both prodigious savers. She saved most of her life and lived a modest life style because she knew her son would never be able to hold a meaningful job. She was saving so her son would have enough to care for him the rest of his life, after she passed away. She was surprised when she outlived him. She has a great teachers pension and could get along fine without my support. I was just stupid lucky with money. I can't imagine finding another woman to replace her. If I outlive her, I'll get a dog.