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People Who Work In Bars....?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Aurora, Mar 16, 2010.

  1. Aurora

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    One of my best friends works in a bar - great guy all around. Trouble is, he always tells me that it's best to avoid most of his peers, especially the women. I always point out that he's (more or less) a good person and it's unfair to paint people with a broad brush. He responds that his opinion is right, on the average.

    I've met a woman who has expressed an interest in me and everyone we mutually know says that she's OK. Trouble is, my intuition screams WALK AWAY - BAD PERSON. I must admit that I'm torn between trusting my instincts vs. trusting other people's word - and my own sense of fairness about people. Everyone has a moment of doubt and this is mine.

    Question; if you've had close contact with bar workers, what was your opinion of them? I'm interested in the averages, not specific cases.

    V.
     
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  3. TacticalBling

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    No expert in bar workers/patrons, but if someone you trust gives you an opinion based on firsthand experience, it'd be wise to consider it. Maybe not take it as gospel, but give it serious thought.

    Also, don't ignore your intuition. Nothing wrong with caution.
     
  4. 9mmXRAY

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    Everytime I didn't go with my gut instict... it resulted in "Loss of wages"... "Car crash"..."Blood on the street" and the ever so frequent "Are you f-ing crazy with that steak knife! GTFO of my house before I plant a FMJ in your foot"
     
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    Seriously though, trust your instincts.
     
  6. Hef

    Hef Stop Obammunism

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    I've worked in the bars. I met my wife while working at a bar - she was a drunk customer. That said, I ran through a whole bunch of women met at bars who were only good for doinking before I met my wife.

    People are people. If you think bar people are bad, you should try hanging out with timeshare salespeople and real estate agents.
     
  7. 9mmXRAY

    9mmXRAY IDPA MW2 GSSF

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    Whom also frequent bars...:rofl:

    I'm glad somebody found something of worth at a bar besides... free peanuts...
     
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  8. Aurora

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    Well, I ask for a reason.

    A lot of guys will brag that they have women chasing them but you know they're blowing smoke. That's not the case with me. Believe me, guys; it's not as good as you might think - you'll grow to hate them when you see how most of them act when their husbands/boyfriends are not looking.

    The reason I ask is that I've spent most of my life around stand up people (so to speak); doctors, burn ward nurses (my mother), soldiers, commodity traders, etc. All of these people tend to be very serious about their work, at least the ones who are any good at their work. I find myself out of my element with a person who has a very social approach to getting their job done. I wonder if I may be misjudging someone who just may be different that I am.

    Have you worked in bar or spent a fair amount of time in one? If so, what say you?

    It is an honest question. I know when I'm out of my lane.

    V.
     
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    I've worked in more bars than I can count, and I am a bad person.:cool:


    As far as women, play it safe, and don't do anything that I wouldn't do.
     
  10. DR. HOUSE

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    If there is one thing that I have learned in my life, its always trust your gut.
     
  11. slick64

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    Seriously? I know quite a few doctors, nurses, brokers, cops, and yes even soldiers who are functioning alcoholics. No one profession is pure. People are varied, there's good and bad in every group.

    There are way too many people here who are judgemental and have holier than thou attitudes. Not everyone who frequents a bar is a lowlife, including the people that work in them.
     
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  12. Aurora

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    Actually, I agree with you for the most part. People are entitled to a certain amount of insanity without judging them good or bad. I'm mostly interested in how well they do their job and whether they treat others with some semblance of fairness. The vast majority of the people mentioned in my previous post meet that criteria.

    I'm not being judgmental or bigoted. I'm just interested in hearing what people think who have more experience in this area.

    V.
     
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    Maturity knows the difference.
     
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    hahahahh commodity traders - stand up people - in the same sentence - hahahha! Traders are the scum of this earth. I work with them and doctors every day... not much difference.

    Anyway -

    IMO all the "quality" women who go to bars are already taken, they're just going to blow off some steam and/or to escort their loser friends. The rest have drama / addidctions / ??? that you'll only find out about at the worst possible time.

    I consider myself/my wife and our friends who go to bars "good people" but again - we're all married, mature, and go to bars to blow off steam and to make our (for lack of better word) loser friends feel like they have a place in life.
     
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    I totally agree.
     
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    I have worked in bars and owned one as well. Met my wife at one of the bars. She is probably the greatest woman I have ever met. Just because a person spends time in a bar doesn't make them any better/worse than anyone else. Can you tell what kind of person someone is because they go to church every Sunday? I think not.

    If my gut tells me to not trust certain people, I listen. But I don't usually dismiss someone because of where they work or hang out.

    Mike

    ETA Most of the bartenders I know are good people, not all, but most.
     
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  17. Aurora

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    Maybe I should rephrase it;....

    Should I trust my instincts, based on my limited views of the world,..... or should I put my faith in a trusted friend who has more experience in a given area?

    Indeed, if you have absolute faith in your decision making process then you haven't really been tested. The best people in the world in most subjects are only 30% accurate.

    Believe it or not, absolute confidence is a sign of a fraud or an inexperienced person. Most people who are good at chaotic activities are well aware of the 30% rule.

    So yes, I'm mature enough,..... to know that I should be humble enough,.... to ask for opinions from more experienced people.

    Anyone else? What say you?

    V.
     
  18. Aurora

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    That's a well measured reply. Very helpful.

    Thanks!

    V.
     
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    Please explain more about the part above highlighted in RED?
    Awesome choice of words!!!
     
  20. themiller

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    I think its a combination of drinking and oinking.... not so sure what the oink-ing is all about tho...