One of the worst things about getting old....

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  1. Detectorist

    Detectorist

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    is losing friends and family.

    I've been trying to contact my friend, John, for over a year. called him a few times, and stopped by his house a few times. I just heard from another person that he died a little over a year ago, probably within weeks of me talking to him the last time. Word is he rolled his tractor and broke his leg. His recovery was going well enough but a blood clot went to his lungs. We started at the casino poker room at the same time in 1994. He was about my age.

    He was my longest living friend. Dammit, John, you could have told me. ;)

    Getting old ain't for p******.
     
  2. Caver 60

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    I check the obituaries daily to see if my name is listed there.

    Edit. What is really funny is, I still carry a laminated obituary notice in my bill fold. My mother sent it to me in the 60's. It was a guy with exactly my name, who died in a car wreck about 30 miles from my hometown.

    No relation to me. And my real name is an unusual name.
     
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  3. Current Resident

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    Sorry to hear about that
     
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  4. NewYorker

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    Unfortunately, dont need to be old for that.

    sorry for your loss
     
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  5. Intolerant

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    What did it for me was one day visiting the cemetery, i came across a large head stone, with MY exact FULL name on it, and i have a very rare name! Good god, i wish people had told me i died!
     
  6. Intolerant

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    Sorry for the loss of your friend. I`m old and my friends are dropping like flies lately. :(
     
  7. Haldor

    Haldor Formerly retired EE.

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    That and knowing that your best days are behind you.
     
  8. TBO

    TBO Why so serious? CLM

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    Sorry for your loss.

    We are all in the same boat, the question is the length of journey.

    In 15 months I buried the last 2 Senior mentors.

    My deer & fishing camp roster of senior members now comprises... myself and my older brother.

    Damn.... but am grateful for decades of treasured memories & experiences.

    Sincerely

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    There are a couple of ladies in my old high school class who are pretty good about tracking the class members and reporting obituaries to the surviving class members.

    There were close to 200 members in the class, and close to half of them have all ready departed.
     
  10. 9jeeps

    9jeeps Avatars, no mas.

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    What I miss most of growing old is losing my strength and breath to carry out the simplest task.
    Worst yet is my wife is too. People are beginning to bring us food and check in on us now.

    Good grief! It's kind of embarrassing. WE have already gotten lawn care and gardening & such taken care of. Sold off a lot of our stuff or sent it on to our surrogate kids for them to enjoy!

    Our house keeper comes once a month then just comes by for coffee and a chat. We love her so much. I'm always trying to give her stuff my wife hasn't used in years. HA!
     
  11. MB-G26

    MB-G26 Ornery & Irreverent Lifetime Member

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    Sorry for your loss.

    A little off-topic, but: are published Obits legally mandated? IOW, can the decedent, via formal written instruction and prior to passing instruct that no Obit shall issue and have that legally binding?
     
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  12. TBO

    TBO Why so serious? CLM

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    I hear that.

    I am by no means frail, and all my life have been equal to at least 1.5 average men in physical ability.

    But now, the past few months have found me still accomplishing the moving/mounting of outboard motors, hauling up shingle packs, etc... but noticeably more effort involved.

    It made me think back to discussion of aging with a mentor. He told me he asked his aged father what it was like to get old.

    His straight reply, "You get weak".

    At the time that experience sent a light breeze past my face.

    Now... a shadow of what may eventually come.

    :eek:

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  13. oceanwarrior

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    This thread really hits home for me............
    I was at our local fishing tackle store today BSing with the owner and we discussed the old times.

    Out of 28 boats that were the hard core fishermen in our location there are only 3 of the original group left including me.
    The others have quit due to age, died, or are unable to fish anymore due to health problems.
    I might quit fishing at the end of this year, I was diagnosed with Pulmonary Fibrosis last year and I've noticed it's hard to fight big offshore fish anymore, don't have the endurance for long fights with Tuna and Marlin.

    Getting old sucks!
    I had to give up hunting at altitude, can't handle it anymore due to lungs going bad.
    Can't do 20 mile bicycle rides anymore, 5 miles and I'm done.
    Discovered the hard and painful way that I can't fire hard recoiling handguns anymore, arthritis has set in and hard recoil now hurts!
    I had to give up my favorite Glock 20 in 10mm with full power loads, Down loaded stuff for my .44 Mag to make it easier and more comfortable to shoot.
    It's harder to do home projects now, I take my time and plan moves carefully.

    In the past year, 6 of my friends have passed away 3 were younger than me.
    This year, I lost 3 of my good neighbors due to various age related illness.

    Now starting to do downsizing of my stuff, Too many years of accumulating shooting stuff has to go as I might not be able to use all of it now.
    My shooting friends love it though, I didn't know there was a shortage of primers and pistol ammo going on!
    A good friend was complaining to me he couldn't find 9 m/m ammo in town so I opened up my storage cabinet and gave him a 1000 round spam can of Milsurp S&B ammo that I bought over 35 years ago when it was ridiculously cheap, and I've got 2 more cans left.
    The younger generation really missed out on the era of cheap Milsurp ammo!

    I'll say it again, getting OLD sucks!
    Only good things are Senior discounts and Old age gives you a pass sometimes.
    Got pulled over for doing 72 in a 60 mph zone while riding my motorcycle.
    Cop comes up to me after I'm parked. I remove my helmet and he sees my white hair.
    Nice Cop says to me "Where you going in such a hurry, Grampa?"
    I reply to Him "The Grim reaper is chasing me so I'm trying to keep ahead of him".
    Cop laughs and tells Me "Well don't go too fast or you might meet him too soon!"
    Checked my license and insurance, told me to have a good ride and let me go, got a free pass due to age.

    oceanwarrior
     
  14. Lt. Donn

    Lt. Donn PSO Survivor. currently in NW Georgia

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    All the great men are dying...and I don't feel so good myself
     
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    I lost my wife and two brothers in the last two years, it's just the hound and me. He keeps me company. I used to see old men sitting on the porch and now I have joined them. The worst part of growing old for me is seeing this country going in the wrong direction. I hope that it can turn around. God Bless the USA by Lee Greenwood makes me feel good, as does Trump 2020.
     
  16. DAKA

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    If I thought I was going to live this long I'd have taken better care of my body....
    How many have said that.....( I have at 85)
     
  17. clancy

    clancy Oh, for a muse of fire

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    I will be 64 in a few weeks. I have lost every close friend I have ever had, these past few years. There are days I feel ok, but they are few and far between. Arthritis is kicking my ass, and I would be a candidate for both knees and 1 hip replacement, but none of the Orthopedic surgeons I have spoken with are willing to do the surgery because of 3 blood clots in my left leg, post surgery for a torn Achilles tendon. I used to do a lot of long distance hiking. 12-15 miles in a day. Now 2, maybe 3 miles, is the best I can do, and I am laid up for a couple days afterwards.

    Getting old sucks but it still beats the alternative.
     
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    My friends and I noted that we were getting old when we knew more of the names in the obituary section of the newspaper than the court news section.
     
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    I've been thinking about some of this stuff lately........ I really dislike a lot of the people I know and I don't like the choices they're making.

    You know, the time in my life that I was happiest (and most productive) was when I lived in a dumpy apartment, surrounded by college age people. I'm seriously planning on going back to this lifestyle.

    I'm also fascinated by the stories about how bad Memphis is......

    Accordingly,.... and in the spirit of The Art of War;...... I'm not going to run from fire, I'm going to run towards it.

    V.
     
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  20. Scott1970

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    ^^^
    Memphis is a solid choice for that.
     
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