Offshoot of the "spouse vs. career" thread...

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by HollowHead, Oct 19, 2019.

  1. Tojo

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    It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
     
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  2. HollowHead

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    All fine and well, but do you really think this kind of union is somehow morally superior? I'm getting a hint (please correct me if I am wrong,) that you feel a "godless" union is somehow less valid. HH
     
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  3. Dave514

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    So you'd stay even if she was a mean witch and you despised her...because...bible.
     
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    G30SF/F-250 Pinky Out Platinum Member

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    Why did I read all the replies..... :upeyes:

    Why is the “Christian” the first to judge....:upeyes:
     
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    Only 18 years, but same here. I cherish her beyond words.
     
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    If I didn't have my wife, nothing else would matter much to me. I'd rather live in a cardboard box with her than be rich without her. No joke.
     
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  7. Haldor

    Haldor Formerly retired EE.

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    I was 29 when we got married. It was #2 for both of us.
     
  8. Haldor

    Haldor Formerly retired EE.

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    The word also refers to not being unequally yoked and that is in reference to ending a marriage.
     
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    sciolist On the Border

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    Different people have different priorities, not really rocket science.
     
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    Haldor Formerly retired EE.

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    How about if she damaged your kids.
     
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    Well God is first, I am second and everyone else falls in behind.

    1) God 2) Glock Commander 3) Wife 4) Grand daughter ...
    ..... 665) Ex-wife 666) Satan <End of List>

    I still can not believe ex-wife beat Satan. :waving:
     
  12. Budqweiser

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    If you are career oriented and work long hours during courtship, she should have no plans to change that. Women trying to change who a man is will always fail. If it does not fail then the man has failed himself. She will see that and she doesn’t want a failure of a man.

    You need to get a job.
    You work too much.
    We need more money.
    You’re never around because you work too much. It goes on and on and on. But we still love ‘em.
     
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    I have never seen my ex-wife and Satan in the same room together. I can’t prove that they’re the same person, but I can’t disprove it either.
     
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    I had always put my spouse above all else, supported her emotionally and financially, then moved across the country for HER job, and then she decided to cheat on me and divorce me. It was ALWAYS about her, and ONLY her. And I know too many guys have that happen to them as well, so it isn't just me!

    I truly envy the guys who have a wife who has been with them through thick and thin, and are still together after all those years.
     
  15. light-switch

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    Yes. The Bible portrays marriage as a picture of the relationship between God and His children. God's children are referred to as "His bride". Perfectly faithful despite our unfaithfulness, God will never abandon His bride. To make it even more explicit, God commanded the prophet Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer, and lavish his love and care onto her despite her unfaithfulness. Jesus died on the cross for His children, even while they were still sinners.

    God calls us to love our wives as Christ loves His church. Despite the church's unfaithfulness, Christ still gave Himself for her. I think you get the point.
     
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    God's Word tells us to NOT be unequally yoked: don't marry someone who is an unbeliever (for what light has in common with darkness?). But if you find yourself already married to one (e.g. you were both unbelievers, and now one of you has becomed saved) you are called to stay married and, through your Christian witness, show God's love to your unbelieving spouse.
     
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    What if she hits you daily? What if she is doing they horizontal mambo with your best friend?

    I get the Faith part and all, but even then God is willing to send people to hell for all of eternity so there must be some limit to how much a man must put up with before he gets divorced.
     
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    Adultery is the only excusable reason for divorce mentioned in the Bible, but even such allowance was rendered insufficient with Christ's advent: for merely looking at a woman lustfully - a sin of the heart - was made equivalent to physical adultery.

    God's standards are impossible for mere humans to achieve. The point of this whole issue (like many others mentioned in Scriptures) is to: A) accept that His ways are higher than ours; B) recognize we are all sinners in desperate need of salvation through grace and mercy only He can give; and C) do our best to be imitators of God, by modeling our lives after His One and Only Son, Jesus the Christ.

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    If my wife punches me in the face every morning for breakfast....we're getting divorced. No matter what the good book says.
     
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    I tend to agree.

    A lot of jobs or ambitious goals require a lot of focus and creativity. My experience with such things is that it's a lot like practicing Zen Buddhism. You take a frustrating question and roll it around your head. At some point, the answer will just pop into your mind. When and where are unpredictable.

    If someone is always talking in your ear and diverting your attention then the answer,.... or the "magic",..... will slip through your fingers.

    V.