Warning, long post: My fiance's ex-boyfriend (the one before me) was extremely abusive and in my opinion downright sadistic. As a result, she's suffering from nightmares and general anxiety about seeing him again, especially since he's still in the area and we unfortunately can't leave until we're done with college. This is something that bothers her everyday, sometimes pretty badly and has been going on for several months although she hasn't seen him since they broke up. But he evidently can be extremely jealous and possessive and would not quit calling or bothering her for a month after she broke up with him, and that only stopped because I started getting on the phone when he would call. I wish there was a way she could get closure, but she wouldn't let me go to the police and now I would feel stupid doing that after so long without actual provocation. Although we have gotten a couple of dropped calls from the same area code and cell phone company that he was using. If it was up to me I would have already utilized the phrase "a real friend helps you bury the body", but I digress. I know if he comes back again, at least one person is going to the hospital me or him, since I know what he did to her and that's not going to happen again. Does anyone have any ideas on how to stop the nightmares and anxiety? Preferably no medications. Any help would be greatly appreciated.