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My buddy is cheating on his wife, ditch him?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by sharpshooter, Apr 21, 2012.

  1. sharpshooter

    sharpshooter Member Millennium Member

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    I hunt and shoot with a buddy about 2x per month. Together we have access to some sweat hunting spots on private property. Not "best friends" by any means but we hunt well. Our wives are friends too, have kids the same age, etc. We've known them 7 years.

    We just found out that he has been cheating on his wife for a while with his friend's wife. They got caught. I had no idea. Neadless to say I'm highly disappointed in my buddy, his wife is such a good person.

    My wife wants me to cease all contact with my buddy forever. I have not talked to him since we found out.

    What would you do?
     
  2. Gregg702

    Gregg702 Gold Member

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    That is a tough one, but I don't think I could consider him trustworthy enough to hunt with if he isn't trustworthy enough not to run around behind his wife's back.
     

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    If he's willing to betray the trust of someone who trusts him the most, he'll have no problem burning you.
     
  4. *ASH*

    *ASH* FURBANITE

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    BINGO . i damn sure would stop hunting with him ..


    have you heard the old story cross a person and next thing you know they ask you if you want to go hunting

    there is a reason . accidents happen:whistling::whistling:
     
  5. sharpshooter

    sharpshooter Member Millennium Member

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    Never heard that "old story". Watch much TV?
     
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    Did you marry your hunting buddy or your wife?
     
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    The story repeats itself more than anyone likes to admit. I'd say ditch him. I know you said you all ain't best friends but he married his wife for a reason and if he is cheating on the woman he chose to marry then what is he worthy of? If there is no trust then there is nothing .
     
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    Had the same happen to me. Was a shooting buddy to me, never more.

    He even got fired from his job for harassing the ladies at work.
    I dumped him and her as they were always fighting. Best move wife and I ever made.
     
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    no why ? must be a southern thang
     
  10. KommieforniaGlocker

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    Tough one, I would stay neutral, if you don't want to hang with him that's fine, but stay neutral and keep in mind they can reconcile and they will disclose to each other everything what every one did and said when the fit hit the shan
     
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    Hard call IMO. But as others said if he screwed his wife over, the one that trusted him the most don't think twice he wouldn't give you the shaft.
     
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    Hi :wavey: dont see you around here much lately bud but have you ever been cheated on? I get what your saying but in my experience once a cheat always a cheat.

    Been there been cheated on! After the first time I tried to trust her....... Didn't work and she did it again. In my exsperience ones that cheat are seeking the next best thing, adventure ect.

    Long day not sure what I'm getting at but you understand?
     
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    Kinda funny....your wife thinks some of your buddy will rub off on you & you'll cheat on her.

    I'd rather not hang out with people like that. IMO, it's better to have fewer good friends than many sleazy ones. But, maybe I'm biased because my (ex) wife cheated on me. And later, my fiancee also cheated.
     
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    You don't have to live with his wife so therefore you or your wife don't understand his reasons.

    I would stay neutral as it's none of your business and has nothing to do with you.
     
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    No, my wife doesn't think his behavior will rub off on me. That has nothing to do with it. She wants me to quit hanging around him because of the pain he's caused his poor wife (her friend).
     
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    There are NO acceptable reasons for cheating on your spouse.

    Stay neutral? Like, never bring it up?
     
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    Neutral as in don't bring it up unless he starts the conversation and be his friend as his domestic affairs are none of your business or your problem.
     
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    Fixed it for you.

    Still think it's a good idea to spend time with this person?
     
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    I say stay out of it. Don't reach out to him but don't tell him off or flip out on him. What happened between him and his wife is between them, not him, his wife, you and your wife. If your wife doesn't want to deal with him, that's her decision. Does your wife let you tell her who she should and shouldn't talk to? If not then why would she presume to tell you?