I don't even think women know this. What do women find 'wantable' about men? My mother had a brother who beat his wife. She left him. He was a mean SOB. Later, he married another woman. She was saintly and had some sort of a job and managed her income modestly and had a little bit of money saved. My mother, who knew her brothers' faults well, asked the new wife, "Why did you marry him?". The reply: "I needed someone to take care of my chickens." A friend and contemporary of mine has suffered from disabling mental illnesses all her life. Back in the 1980's, she married a man who had spent his period of rebellion acquiring HIV. By the time she married him, his AIDS was known and he died a couple of years later. She continued living with his mom and inherited the old lady's house after she died. Pretty good luck for a woman suffering disabling mental illness. I asked her why she married the man. The reply: "I wanted to take care of him." So, women, what did you think you'd get out of the deal when you hooked up with that dude?