Yesterday I've been dating a spectacular woman for a few weeks now. She's freakishly intelligent, cooks gourmet food, takes amazing care of me, is beautiful, and screws better than most porn stars (she does stuff that I haven't even seen in hardcore films). At any rate, her PC broke last week and she asked me to retrieve a specific email from her account for her. Curiosity got the better of me and after-word I snooped her email a bit. I discovered several employment offers/inquiries with some high-end escort and call-girl services (dating back a few months, prior to meeting me). Suddenly several other notable things about her added up... her dad kicking her out of the house when she was 14yo, her current schedule, her night-owl lifestyle, the way she dances with the girls at the strip clubs she takes me to, her huge savings account, all the past places she's lived, her freaky nature in bed, demanding blood tests prior to us having intercourse, etc. My intuition tells me that most people probably don't decide to try this profession (for the first time) at 25yo... I really like this woman. She does sooo much for me and thinks I'm the greatest thing. In reality, it wouldn't bother me if this is a thing of the past. Currently, she's in school for message therapy (gives a great message). Late last night I tactfully inquired about the emails late last night. Initially, she became irritated at me. However, I held my ground and reminded her that she told me to access her email & that any man who sees "Desert Divas" + "employment" on the subject line of an email in his GF's mailbox is going to click-away. So then she told me that she was looking for a message job, and was surprised to see that some responses indicated prostitution. Afterword, she tried to change the subject to my lack of integrity for looking at her emails. Then I countered with the fact that "Desert Divas" is 100% a prostitution thing, there's no mistaking it for a legit message place (even for a geek like me). So her story changed to, "I had a car wreck and a lot of medical bills... I was stressing out and a friend suggested I try being an escort. But when it came right down to it, I just couldn't do it. I've done many questionable things, but I've never sold my ass." Effectively, her argument was very pathetic for a woman of her intelligence... equivalent to the path of: total denial >> to blame shifting >> to very limited acknowledgement and large excuse making... that my 6yo uses when I catch him flushing his brussels sprouts down the toilet. I didn't accuse her, I simply asked her what the nature of the emails was. I also stated that if that type of work was a thing from her past, it wouldn't bother me (it really wouldn't). However, I don't know how I'd handle it if she were still "practicing". Still, my gut tells me that I don't know everything. IMO, NOBODY considers making a career change to "call-girl/escort" at the age of 25/26... as I'm guessing that all the 25/26yo prostitutes are veterans. However, if she does/has-done this kind of thing, I can't understand her overlooking it when she asked me to open her email account? Truthfully, I would've been more at-ease if she'd simply said, "I used to be an escort for a couple years, but didn't like what the future held in that line of work." Whaddya think, was/is she a hooker Y/N? FWIW, I am hugely attracted to uninhibited women. She takes really good care of me. Im 29, twice divorced with two kids from the second marriage, have a vasectomy (no "oops honey" factor), and I really have no intentions of getting married a 3rd time anytime soon. She may be my ideal playmate. My big problem is that I don't have a lot of "street smarts". Both my ex-wives had long-term affairs behind my back. I really don't think I'm observant enough to "know" what she's doing nor do I have the energy/desire to "check-up" on someone. My plan now is to guard my heart a bit more and just try to enjoy the ride. It'll be tough since I'm actually a total romantic, which makes it hard not to get attached and also causes "abused women" fall in love with me (for a while). I posted this for the women, is there anything you can dissect from this? Would you take what she says at face value, or would you suspect that I'm being lied to? I hate to sound negative, but in my experience women never tell me the truth. I'm open and honest, which seems to indicate to people that I need to be fed lies.