This is probably going to sound petty but going to try this anyway. My wife isn't very good at giving gifts. I can count on one hand (with fingers left over) the number of times she has given me a gift where I went WOW! This past Christmas I finally gave up and gave her a list. Our 20th anniversary was last week. I had promised her a trip to Disney before we got married. (I hate theme parks.) I went all out. Nice resort instead of a hotel. First class plane tickets. Tickets to Disney and Universal Studios. I even bought her a diamond ring to replace the engagement ring she lost. Figured after 20 years of putting up with me she deserved something nice. What did she buy me...nothing. This scenario plays out for birhtdays and Christmas too. I put a lot of time and effort into figuring out something that she would like. Something that would make her happy. I listen when she says "oh, I really like that" and make a mental note of it. I scrimp and save so that I can afford to get it for her. I get...clothes. I've never considered clothes a good gift unless it's something the person requested. That's just me. She's actually given up on even trying to buy for me. This past Christmas she actually asked me for a list. Really? We've been married 20 years and you can't figure out what I like? What I'm interested in? I gave her a list just so I wouldn't have to hear "I don't know what to get you" anymore. I think it's less about she's not good at giving gifts and more about she doesn't put the time and effort into thinking about it. It's not a major problem. I jut find it annoying. So, guys...am I the only one in this boat or is this pretty common? UPDATE: Well there may be hope for my wife. The wife and I were on that sid of town so I decided to go to the gun shop and see if the pistol I was interesed in (Kimber Ultra CDP II LG) was still there. It was. I also looked at a few others. My wife asked, "why don't you get it?" Umm...because I don't have the money saved up. (See large sparkely diamond ring on your finger for explanation of my financial situation.) Her reply, "Put it on the credit card. I'll pay for it. It's my anniversary gift to you." She told me she wanted to get it for me for our anniversary but couldn't remember exactly which one it was. She said she also couldn't find a time to go there when I wasn't with her. Hmmm...well don't see how that second one is right since I'm at work all day Sunday and she's off...but ok. So it seems the idea was there was a lack of intel gathering and mission planning. We'll have to work on that.