Back ground story, I'm living in my parents home and finishing grad school and my brother is finishing his undergrad and is applying for grad school. We're both engineers. My dad thinks he can get a friend to pull some strings and get him admitted to Stanford. So he puts my brother in contact with his friend. My brother does not want to go to stanford since they do not specialize in his area of study. Dad thinks my brother is making a stupid decision to pass up Stanford because he thinks the salary gap fresh out of Stanford is substantial compared to a school like Rutgers or Columbia. Dad is so pissed off, thinking we are ungrateful and don't appreciate the value of money (believe me, as conservatives we do) that he is threatening that if he doesn't choose to go to Stanford he is cutting us off financially and have us pay for school and home by ourselves. Keep in mind it is not even garunteed if he can get in, the friend would just say he'd try to pull some strings. In my dad's mind he thinks we are being idealistic to pass up possibly 40k in earning potential just to study what "interests" us. But in all honestly the money isnt that important to us. I'm pretty sure given our degrees we will not be wanting anytime soon. At this point this is getting so out of hand it has the potential to put a very big dent in our family and I'm just not sure what to do. One suggestion I gave was for my brother to confide in the friend, tell him the situation and have the friend make sure he does not get accepted while telling my dad that he tried but they said no, other than that I don't know what he could possibly do to get out of this situation.