I hear about all these people talking about tough marriages and marriage problems. If you're unhappy in your marriage, and it's not just a temporary situation, you're in a bad marriage that no longer works for you (if it ever did.) Get out. You're wasting time, yours and your partners. If you're worried about your kids spend some time thinking about the fact that all you're teaching them is how to have a bad marriage that will set them up for their own misery down the road. Get out. A good marriage is a breeze. You support each other and deal with problems together... your partner is not the problem. I've been in both types good and bad and, like some of you, wasted too much time on the bad one. Get out. Stop wasting your life being miserable.