Greetings, I feel as if though I am about to crumble under the weight on my shoulders. The woman (my wife) that I still love and have had a wonderful child (4) with have grown apart and soon will legaly seperate. We tried diffrent things such as counciling with poor results. I will be living close to them so I can help to care for my son and also to give my wife support with her life. The emotional cost is high for all those concerned and I am haunted with the thought of being alone at 40. The little things I miss like walking hand in hand and snugling up on the couch where the food for my soul and will no longer be part of that which defines me as a man being able to support my family through the hardest times. My son will always be there and for this I am ever greatful. Is it wrong of me to be searching for another woman at this point? I am not looking for the physical relation to stop the pain but a true "Soulmate". This experience has taught me to honor my new mate (God willing) with understanding, encouragement, devotion and selfless giving. Please excuse me for this deep post but I really do want the womens perspective on my feelings.