Hugging the opposite sex in uniform in public.

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  1. RetailNinja

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    A while ago on day shift over the summer I was parked, semi hidden, at an intersection waiting on a DWLS to drive by when I a roll over accident occurred in front of me. A driver was turning in front of an SUV and the SUV went off the road and rolled hard. I drove to it and stayed with the couple until they were being loaded onto the gurneys. I talked to the driver's mom explaining that her daughter was in an accident and gave her regular updates on what was going on.

    Friday at court for the at fault driver, the mom came up and gave me a giant hug in front of everyone.

    Thought I'd put a positive post on page 1. Feels good. :supergrin:
     
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    RyanNREMTP Inactive/Banned

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    Sorry but that is not allowed. Only same sex hugs are allowed. :D

    Just kidding. Good job.

    Sent from my Federation issued communicator.
     

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    A sincere thank you is really good for the soul. Congratulations on doing good.
     
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    Sam Spade Staff Member Lifetime Member

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    Savor it.

    Well-earned.
     
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    First, I hope you had your hat on!

    Second, be professional. As the huggee, you need to maintain eye contact with the hugger at all times. Don't be caught with your eyes roving up and down, checking her out.

    Third, great job!
     
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  7. lawman800

    lawman800 Juris Glocktor

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    It just keeps getting better, don't it?
    Pics of MILF or it didn't happen.:whistling:

    I try not to hug in uniform other than maybe some cordial greeting types if necessary.

    I recall one of my first days in uniform as a rookie working footbeat at a fair and my (then) girlfriend was there with her friends and she couldn't help it but run up and hug me and gave me a kiss... my partner was like... ummm... try to not do that too often.
     
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    I hug but don't shake hands
     
  9. wprebeck

    wprebeck Have you seen me?

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    I have lunch with the wife on occasion, and will give her a quick kiss, no hugs or tongue - we are both in uniform, too. Since its one of the few times I see her during the week, and I have to make the extra effort AND we've been married for almost 16 years - I dont give a **** what it looks like or who cares. She's my wife - they can deal with it.
     
  10. VinnieG

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    I think it's a great thing when you make a positive impact in someone's life and you get a hug from a stranger.
    I know in the law enforcement community I'm prally the minority, but 1 goal that I have every day I work it to try and make at least one persons day better.
     
  11. RWBlue

    RWBlue Mr. CISSP, CISA CLM

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    I always wondered where that term came from.



    That is wrong, so wrong, but funny.
     
  12. Ftttu

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    I can't quote our policy right now, but it is pretty close to the way in was when I was in the USMC. In times like the op's anecdote, sounds appropriate to me.
     
  13. lawman800

    lawman800 Juris Glocktor

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    It just keeps getting better, don't it?
    I understand that, but since none of the girls I dated are in LE, I also worry about identifying them in public because you never know who's watching and which idiot has a bone to pick with LE and sees he can harm a defenseless girl instead of a guy with a gun.
     
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    I think your partner (FTO?) was drinking a big glass of haterade. Jealousy isn't pretty. :tongueout:

    Damn right. She's a big girl, you're a big boy. You have the same last name, they can suck it.

    That's an awesome goal...you don't by chance have a degree in social work or sociology, do you? Just kidding.

    Really? Your agency has a policy on hugging? CALEA much?
     
  15. lawman800

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    It just keeps getting better, don't it?
    Nah, that day it wasn't a FTO. It was a fair at the local park and they just assigned us footbeats for PR and visibility mostly. I was with another officer who was a cool dude, but very conservative.
     
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    You mean you don't try to violate at least 2 people's rights per shift?

    Just a week ago, I bravely shielded some ~20yo girl from traffic with my car while another guy tore her car's backseat apart to get into the trunk where she had locked her keys after having a third guy change a flat for her. Everyone got hugs from the hot girl but me. :dunno:
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  18. JBUS

    JBUS I'mHellaJelly!

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    Same here. My fiancée works day patrol and I'm swings. We overlap one day a week by an hour.

    We usually get touchy feely out back in parking lot when she parks and I'm leaving or in the station.

    No one complains and I get a metric ton of crap for it but my friends are happy to see me grounded and happy.
     
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    I do know guys that don't seem to understand rights, either that or they don't care. But that ain't how I roll.
     
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