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Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by gonefla, Mar 17, 2010.
Women don't forget things...ever...
3 months, 3 years, 3 decades, she isn't going to let something go
So, my advice is to dust off and nuke it from orbit. It's the only way to be sure.
At this point you might as well play dirty back. If your posting here you must be worried about your job. Just dont send anymore stupid emails and try to leave no 'paper trail' at all then its he said she said...dont leak explicit details or phrases that could only be found in the emails.
Im sure reading those would be a no no for you as well and could get you fired.
Why are you blaming the girl for your own admission of stupidity?
She offered it to her boss. She didn't offer it to you. You probably should be fired for reading her emails and harrassing her off the clock. I wouldn't want to work with you and its just a matter of time before she tells your wife. Good luck explaining this one to the significant other why you propositioned her ex best friend for some pillow time. And I would go ahead and start looking for a job, because when this does all blow up you will be looking for a new job.
Are you a bodyguard?
Should I just confront her and say I know what is going on and if you don't stop trying to destroy my job there will be consequences?
It seems that she is already trying to get you fired, but I would wait until you "get wind" of it actually happening before you blow it all up. I'm sure if everyone found out you read everyone's emails you will be gone. Am I right?
SAVE THE EMAILS!
delete for stupidity
You could always tell your boss that you think she is making it a hosile work enviorment for you. You could always try apoligising to her for sending the email and try to work things out with her. If she throws it in your face though tell her you know about the guy she is saying and tell her to shut her hole.Its likely she hates herself for what she is doing and she thinks you are a wife cheater after that email so now she is directing her loathing your way.
I would start printing evidence and covering tracks. You're gonna need both. And go ahead and lay the groundwork with the wife that she is crazy for you and threatening to raise a stink over nothing. That's the only way you'll come out of this alive.
If you sit back and let her bring the fight to you, you'll lose. They have this fight bred into them. You are already behind the 8-ball.
Where did you get the idea that GNG was a great place for advice on such situations?
BTW: Good luck.
The catastrophe is certain, it is only a matter of time. You need to look for a new job asap. If you can find other employment and disappear from the present job you may be able to save your marriage.
You are in a hole. The first thing you do to get out of a hole is to stop digging. You propositioning her while married is bad on many levels, but you already know that. You have to ask yourself why you did that. Some people would come clean to their wives to preserve their marriage which ought to be built on honesty and trust.
Some would forget it and move on with life. Asking themselves the motivation behind such actions. She may be a ho, but that is not your concern. What she does with others is not your business. If you don't want to be a creepy ******* you need to figure yourself out some.
But by your post and what you have done I assume you will continue to weave a tangled web and royally screw yourself. Losing the wife and a job in one fell swoop will be rough. So about that drinking.....
Nothing to add, didn't read. Just wanted to quote this in case you delete your post before I (or your coworkers, boss, wife, etc.) get a chance to read it.
...sending her that e-mail was exceedingly stupid and as much as I hate to say it, ...you probably deserve what you get
Dude you messed up. Then you lied about it. Top that off with you reading her mail......
When you first got access to her e-mail why did you access it? You realize most people can tell if thier mail is being read? Where it was read from can be tracked. (if on company computers the history can be checked)
If she has it in for you she might search forums/user names you use. Expect to be FIRED if she finds this. (IMO DELETE IT) ASAP...
You posted it on a open forum. expect folks to give you their real feelings.
So do you read your wife's e-mails? Check her cell phone history/computer? WHY?? Its none of your business. A co worker? STUPID. Stop NOW.
Make an appointment with an attorney that deals with wrongful termination
and employment issues.
Find out now where you stand legally if the shlit hits the fan. He'll tell you
what to do and how to cover your arse. It will well be worth the
If you trust your wife, tell her...It's your relationship and I can't begin to
give you info on how to handle that. See the proper attorney first, and
cover your rear and prepare for the worst, and hope for the best.
If you get fired, send everyone in the office a copy of her e-mails. Work e-mails aren't private.
Reading her Emails is a federal crime, from there you did the hole deeper. You screwed the pooch.