Good God, but I think I am going to suggest something I really, really don't want to do, but need to do. My Mother had a stroke a few months ago, and is actually recovery rather well. However..... Describing another person's personality in a thread like this is extremely difficult....there are so many nuances and easily miss-understood descriptions one could use, that it's pretty much an exercise in futility. But I will try. She's a rather emotional person. She's quite the hypochondriac, and rather submissive to authority figures like Doctors and therapists and such. The damage to her brain has exacerbated these and other personality traits. So, in a nut shell, she is living in a retirement home for a month, despite her rehab specialists and doctors telling her she was free to return to her condo, her home. She is also uselessly moving forward with MRIs and further meetings with Neurologists, because she can't stop obsessing about having had a stroke. She's also talking about staying, just one more month, at the retirement facility. And I'm worrying she will never leave it. What she really needs is a strict regime of excercise and daily activities, which she is no longer getting as she is no long getting any intense post-stroke rehab, just some basic crapola, for the 5k a month she is paying to stay at this retirement facility. Well, I think I need to get a two bedroom apartment and move her in temporarily, to get her focused and motivated. At 72, she is far to young to be acting the way she is. Vigorous working out, harder than she has ever done in her life, is what she really needs. But she is not going to push herself, and the facility she is living in is not going to push her either. She needs to go to bed at the same time every night, get up the same time every morning, and not lay in bed during the day. These sorts of things are not going to happen unless someone stays on her about them. I'm thinking we could get into a routine for a month or two of hitting the gym together 5 days a week, to regain her strength and help her brain to re-wires itself just the little bit better that it needs, so she can return to living on her own. I'm torn though...it would be really hard on both of us. We normally have a rather cantankerous relationship. We are very much not alike in personality, so we struggle to get along well together. Still, I think that living together, helping her get into some healthy routines, would be massively positive for her rehabilitation. I just don't want to do it, but I know I need to. Still, I have to get her to agree, but I imagine she will go for it if I present the idea properly. So, wish me luck. Thanks for letting me vent my anxieties.