It's noticeable, but it isn't a deal breaker. I was really glad I got to do an actual side by side comparison with the exact same ammo in each (WWB 230 gr). Let me put it this way...I like as much power as I can get with controllable recoil in the event a pissed of hog charges me. When I shot the G21 (it was a Gen 4), the difference in recoil was immediately noticeable, but it didn't make me want to go out and purchase one. I'm a strong man and can handle recoil from 'bout anything, within reason; my comments on recoil are more for critic's sake than not being able to handle it. IOW, I don't want to tell someone it 'shoots soft' just because I can shoot a bazooka with one hand and we're comparing a G21/41. The difference is there, but you can still rapid fire the you know what with it (the 41).
Because my finances hit a little road bump, here, not too long ago, I'm out of the gun buying biz for a bit, but I got room to trade. I was considering trading one of my 41's to get a 21 just to be able to do conversions with it. With the talk of the 41's slide being lighter than the 21 and the 21 established as a good conversion piece, it makes more sense going that way. Only real reason I haven't done it is I'm trying to decide if I want to do another G35 with the .357 Sig conversion. I had that setup, already, and wouldn't have sold it except I made a little more on it than I paid, overall.