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Ever get the feeling that you've been conned?

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by jbailey8, Nov 25, 2012.

  1. jbailey8

    jbailey8

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    Funny thing happened to me earlier this year and I always felt as if I had been taken advantage of.

    Here it is...

    I was at a Walmart in El Paso, TX sometime in January or February. I park the car as usual and head into the store when the strangest thing happened. A man, who I thought was going to ask for money, approached me and said, "Excuse me sir, do you think on your way out (he started to look at a piece of paper) that you might have some extra milk, eggs, cheese, etc that you could spare? My daughter is having a shower and I can't afford the stuff to throw her a party."

    I thought to myself, "WTF? Is this guy serious?" So I called his bluff, "Let me see your list." (He hands it to me and I glance at it) "Ok, I think I can get some of this, I'll be right back." So, I took the guys list and went on about my business. The list had about 10-12 items on it: eggs, cheese, cake mix, milk... You get the point. I bought everything except a card and flowers. The total ended up being right around 20 dollars. I came out of the store and saw him there, waiting patiently. I told him that I got almost everything, but didn't know what kind of card or flowers he wanted so I didn't get them. He thanked me and I gave him 20 dollars cash to do whatever with. I watched the man walk over and put the stuff in a Volvo and then drive off.

    Well this is why I felt that I had been gotten. I was at the same Walmart a couple of weeks later and saw the same man approaching people again. I didn't think much of it at the time and I didn't talk to him. After I got home and thought about it I wondered if he just made up the whole story just to get money. Would someone, who didn't appear to be homeless, go through the trouble of making a list and a sob story to convince people to give him money. He didn't ask me for money, he just wanted groceries. Idk.
     
  2. mj9mm

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    ask the store manager if they have gotten any complaints regarding this example, give them his description. he may be legitamate or have other problems.
     

  3. fusegsp

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    This is the kind of thing my girlfriend would fall for. She's a weirdo magnet. That is kind of funny that he didn't ask for money, just groceries. I'm surprised he didn't ask you to come back to his place, bake the cake for him, and then explain to his daughter why she didn't get the card and flowers.
     
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  4. Dubble-Tapper

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    yeah, like every election ever.
     
  5. dango

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    Don't dwell on it and a pat on the back from me . Not enough compassion in the world as it is and as far as conned , you got it coming back at you in a good way ! Happy Holidays to you and your's ! :wavey:
     
  6. PPinesRon

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    Some people would return the stuff for cash.

    Used to be a con where people would snatch up the receipts some folks toss when they leave the store, head into the store, fill the list, then head to customer service and return the stuff for a refund, receipt in hand. Most stores have prevention measures in place, but not all.
     
  7. Rotn1

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    When I lived in Illinois, and before the I-Pass the toll road agents would try to short change you about 10% of the time.
    ........And every time I buy a car.
     
  8. Hailstorm

    Hailstorm Boom Shacka

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    In your heart. You did good. That was your intention. If you see the guy again. Sure, check it out. But, don't dwell on it. Because if you run into someone who actually needs a little help. You may not do it for fear of getting con'd again.

    Be proud you made the attempt to ease the burdon of someone in need. Until proven otherwise. Even then. Don't hold a grudge on someone else.
     
  9. happyguy

    happyguy Man, I'm Pretty

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    I'm sure I've been taken before but I don't worry about it. I never "give 'till it hurts" and I figure if they are liars it's on them. I know for a fact I've helped some honest folk who have been down on their luck and that is enough for me.

    The lady I helped today was definitely not conning me. I changed her flat tire in the Kroger parking lot. Hubby showed up just as I was finishing and offered me $20. I just told him to help out the next lady in distress he comes across.

    Wish I could do more, but I'm just one old low income old fart in the wind.

    Regards,
    Comrade Happyguy :)
     
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  10. Bruce M

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    What you did for him came from the heart so you should be commended for helping. Was the receipt for the stuff you bought in the bag? Did you pay cash for the groceries? Especially since you saw him again I am guessing it is a con/scam. My first guess is returning the stuff for cash or re-selling it elsewhere (i.e. flea market.)
     
  11. Jon_R

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    Yes feel I have been conned sometimes. Generally I just don't care a few bucks just not that big of a deal. A good creative story might be worth 10 or 20 bucks so bring something fun and creative to the table.
     
  12. czsmithGT

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    I KNOW I've been conned. Don't give it another thought except to know that you demonstrated you have a good heart.
     
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    Hamilton Burger Incompetent

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    A somewhat more elaborate take on the gas-can/out-of-gas game. :steamed:

    Ever buy a new car? Talk about a con game. You can try to con them back, but the really good conners will let you think you're conning them in order to con you.
     
  14. raven11

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    There w a guy who would drive around movie theaters in a old GMC van asking for money.

    That felt too much like a 20/20 investigation sting
     
  15. jbailey8

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    I've since moved back home to Virginia and haven't given it much thought. I've told the story a couple times and people generally feel as if I was gotten.

    El Paso had a lot of homeless people and you'd go broke if you tried to help every one of them. Inner man had a sign that said he was blind and hungry so I bought him a sub and gave him a gallon of water. Another time I saw a sign that read, "Bet you a dollar you read this sign." I laughed and have him a dollar. The one that sticks out the most, my wife and I were headed to the mall and I saw a man standing in the cold with one shoe on. Had I been able to get into the turning lane I would've given him mine. When I turned around he was gone.
     
  16. fusegsp

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    Duh. I think I know why he asked for groceries instead of cash. He probably got shot down quite a few times by people like me that say they don't have any cash, only credit cards. Smart.
     
  17. ray9898

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    Of course you got scammed. They guy at the gas station who needs gas money because he is stranded on his trip after losing his wallet is BSing you also.
     
  18. NDCent

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    You're better than a wife, you not only shop while he sits in the car, you pay for the stuff, too. :supergrin:

    All joking aside, if you get bored I got a list I can share. If we can meet weekly, maybe I could afford a Volvo. :whistling:
     
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    Standing on the patio of a bar yesterday, homeless man picks a nasty 3/4 smoked cig out of the gutter and asks me for a light. I told him to toss that away and gave him 4 or 5 that I had left in my pack, along with a lighter. We got talking for a bit, he was a nice enough guy. My drunk buddy came out and asked him if he wanted a beer or a shot, both of which he declined, he said that alcohol keeps people in the streets and he was working his hardest to get out. I asked him if he wanted a burger or sandwich, he broke down full blown, slobbering, shaking, tears running down his face.

    Long story short, my buddies and I went down to the shelter down the road and prepaid the $7 a night fee that they charge for them to stay there (odd) for the next 10 days and tossed him some scratch for food.

    I have been so jaded and holding a negative attitude towards the homeless, aka lazy drunk slobs, yesterday was a wonderful eyes opener for everyone involved.
     
  20. Annoyedgrunt

    Annoyedgrunt Dry Heat my ASS

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    This type of crap is why I don't trust anyone, nowadays, except for immediate family. Everyone else is guilty until proven innocent.