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Encouragement- For Men

Discussion in 'The Lighter Side' started by doubletap1, Jul 23, 2002.

  1. doubletap1

    doubletap1

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    It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it
    becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping
    they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try
    not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation.
    When I chucked my job and took early retirement a year ago, it
    became necessary for Nancy to get a full-time job both for extra
    income and for health insurance benefits that we need. She was a
    trained lab tech when we met thirty some years ago and was fortunate
    to land a job at the local medical center as a phlebotomist.
    It was shortly after she started working at this job that I
    noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home
    from fishing or hunting about the same time she gets home from work.
    Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she
    has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try not
    to yell at her when this happens. Instead, I tell her to take her
    time. I understand that she is not as young as she used to be. I just
    tell her to wake me when she finally does get supper on the table.
    She used to wash and dry the dishes as soon as we finished
    eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several
    hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times
    each evening that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she
    appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she
    goes to bed.
    Our washer and dryer are in the basement. When she was younger,
    Nancy used to be able to go up and down the stairs all day and not get
    tired. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more
    quickly. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down
    those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes
    up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it. Not only
    that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday's lodge
    meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club or to Tuesday's or
    Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait
    until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more
    time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog,
    vacuuming, or dusting.
    Also, if I have had a really good day fishing, this allows her
    to gut and scale the fish at a more leisurely pace. Nancy is starting
    to complain a little occasionally. Not often, mind you, but just
    enough for me to notice. For example, she will say that it is
    difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her
    lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer
    encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three
    days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that
    missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any, if you
    know what I mean.
    When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest
    periods than she used to have to take. A couple of weeks ago she said
    she had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the
    yard.
    I overlook comments like these because I realize it's just age
    talking. In fact, I try to not embarrass her when she needs these
    little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold
    glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell
    her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
    make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with
    me until I fall asleep.
    I could go on and on, but I think you know where I'm coming
    from. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support
    Nancy on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this
    much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will
    find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating
    women can become as they get older. My purpose in writing this is
    simply to suggest that you make the effort. I realize that achieving
    the exemplary level of showing consideration I have attained is out of
    reach for the average man. However guys, even if you just yell at your
    wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that
    writing it was worthwhile.

    [This was written by the deceased husband of a friend; He passed away
    shortly after writing this guidance to his friends
    ..........................................................I heard
    later, she killed him.]
     
  2. DWavs

    DWavs Moderator Moderator

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    LMAO! Classic!