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Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Batesmotel, Mar 29, 2012.

  1. Batesmotel

    Batesmotel

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    A young kid I know had her husband of two years move back in with his parents and is filing for divorce. It is mostly because of his mothers dislike for her. His mommy hand picked all the other spouses for her kids.

    Anyway the girl thinks the marriage can be saved. At this time she is refusing to sign anything until they spend serious time in therapy.

    What happens if she just refuses to sign the papers?

    No kids to major assets BTW.
     
  2. Fiery Red XIII

    Fiery Red XIII Adorkable CLM

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    depends on he state...how long has this been going on? why is he not willing to try to save it?

    Red
     

  3. *ASH*

    *ASH* FURBANITE

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    depends on the state , i know here in nc , separation is a year !! then you can file . trust me i know .

    dont matter if married a week or years in nc .

    sound like to me they are bunch of dumbasses . no offense
     
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    Easterbrook Wagon Burner

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    If your friend thinks "If I don't agree to the divorce, we won't get divorced," she is mistaken. In most states, it's the same waiting period whether or not both parties sign on for the divorce. In some states it's actually a longer period if both parties agree to get divorced.

    From the states I know, there is no advantage to not agreeing to the divorce. But then again, I only practice in MA.

    Tell her to talk with a family lawyer. In some cases, if the husband files for divorce under certain grounds, it may be advantageous for her to counter file for divorce on different grounds.
     
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    INJoker Simply Charming

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    She sounds lonely. What's her #?
     
  6. Batesmotel

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    Going on about a year.

    Mommy is the cause of most of the problems. She thinks if they can just get away from her things will get better. The woman is the ultimate meddling mother. Absolutely relentless, he finally caved.

    What usually happens if she just refuses to sign?

    This is in Utah.
     
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    When you sign this document , say I do , what the hell are you thinking ? Till death do us part , ring a bell ? Kids ??????????
     
  8. Batesmotel

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    That's her take on it. She thinks they can put this behind them and have a great life together.
     
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    I'd sell the rights to MTV.

    And collect residuals.
     
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    That would have been my best friends divorce. Turned into the three ring circus from hell. At least it was entertaining.:whistling:
     
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    You know , I was a whore , tramp , adventurer until I was thirty-five when I met my wife. Been married over 25 years
    now , been through hell and back like all of us .
    The secret of my success , she was my best friend before I tied the knot and she is still my best friend.

    I hope they at least try. Send Mama home where she belongs !
     
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    Does she need someone to talk to? :whistling:
     
  13. RayB

    RayB Retired Member

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    Sometimes mommy needs to get whacked... :eyebrow:

    Sorry, I'm in my gangster mode right now... Forget about it... :dunno:

    A year? No kids? Not many assets? She should dump the guy and move on. Period. :upeyes:

    --Ray
     
  14. gemeinschaft

    gemeinschaft AKA Fluffy316

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    Sometimes it makes sense to move away from mother, not closer.

    I'd keep a shotgun in the shower if that woman were around.

    If the woman in this story has any sense, she will see that the guy she married only has room in his life for one woman and he chose his mom.

    Time to move on.
     
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    wait !! who gets the bravia ???
     
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    I must agree,.......he's a Momma's boy. Never going to change!
    She needs to cut ties and move on.
     
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    Hire a process server? HH
     
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    The typical divorce in pictures...

    Them: :duel:

    She: :crying:

    The Law: :cop:

    He: :sadangel:

    She: :thanks:

    He: :therapy:

    --Ray
     
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    Looks like in Utah:

    If he files, she has 20 days to answer the petition.

    If she does not answer the petition, then he can request a default judgement.

    There is a 90 day waiting period from the time he files the petition until the decree is signed. He can ask for a waiver of this if he can show good cause.

    That's pretty much it.
     
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  20. D3S3RT_P3NGU1N

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    This ^^

    The girl just needs to cut her losses and be done with it