I haven't had a controversial thread in a while; hope this one stays civil. I have been dating a single mom with two kids, boy, four, girl, two, non-exclusively. The kids have been over a few times to watch movies. Usually, they will sit through the movie, then, we have a snack before they all go home. One time, we all wrestled afterward for a bit. However, they don't listen to their mother and she doesn't force the issue. Tonight, she told her son to put his boots on for over 30 minutes before he finally did it. He threw his boots in the air, he ran around, threw his boots in the air some more, ran and ran around until he felt like actually listening. She told him to put his coat on when she told him to boot up, but she just picked up the coat and put it on him when he finally put the boots on. I understand the kids want to run around and I let them, even though my new home theater equipment is often in dangerous range of their playing. Their mother does real them in when they get too crazy around the equipment, but it still takes several times before they act on her directions. I will tell them to move away, settle down, and they will listen, briefly, but I don't think I should have to reel her kids in. Tonight, the two kids decided they were going to use me as a punching bag. I grabbed them both and held them down. I don't care if they're little kids. They can't just come up and hit me if they feel like it. If we are wrestling, that's the time to play a little rougher, I'm still off work due to illness and am not supposed to be that active right now. I undertand the mother wanting to be the kids' friend and always have a good time, but they want for nothing and don't seem to have any recourse for not listening. It's not my place to parent her children, nor do I want to say or do anything related to that. Perhaps, time has faded my memory, but I don't remember my parents' directions being optional. I'm going to discuss this with her when we're alone, but this is new territory. Not sure how well this is going ot play out; I doubt it's pretty. The single mothers I've dated in the past didn't bring their kids over (of course, we didn't date as much, either). She does keep them within sight pretty good, knowing my house is not kid-safe (weapons, chemicals, plastic sacks....). Any thoughts?