Dating advice?

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  1. obxprnstar

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    Ok, so this thread https://glocktalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=1187317 made me think, what advice would you have to offer for someone mid life (thirties?) who was dating.

    This should be interesting, and BTW, please don't post something idiotic to get this thread locked, you can PM that stuff to me.
     
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    I'd probably start with not calling myself Outer Banks Porn Star. That'd be a start.
     

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    Get the sex out of the way early.
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    Why, is there supposed to be something after that?
     
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    That's true, get the sex out of the way, then wave goodbye.
     
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    Seriously be open and honest about kids if they have them. I am not saying yes or no, but be honest about it whatever your attitude. I bring this up because at this age a large percentage of women will have kids.
     
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    If you don't know how to do it by the time your in your 30s...you never will...
     
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    Had I not spent ten years in two serious relationships (marraige and long term gf) I may know better.
     
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    A woman can not fill your hole.....there, the idiotic responses to follow should get this thing locked.
     
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    I dated a lot and married later in life. I actually got so burned out on dating that I stopped for several years.

    If you’re looking to get married again, then I’d say it’s important to value the same things. Hobbies, interests, and personality are slight considerations, but attitudes about money, kids, roles, temperament, conflict resolution, religion, etc. are really important.

    I met my wife overseas. We did not spend a lot of time together, but I knew from experience that we matched on the above items and other values.
     
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    Go to the grocery store on Friday or Saturday night and shop for one. When you see someone that interests you, also shopping for one, ask her a question about something in that section. It don't matter if you know the answer, play like you don't. Her willingness to help you will be indicative of her interest in you.
     
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    That would be the advice I would give someone in their 30's who was dating.

    You should know what your doing by the time you hit that age.
     
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    i wouldn't & don't date anyone with children or that wants children, i get that out of the way first, if they have children or want children & still call you & want to go out, then ya get lucky...just be yourself & get everything you want & expect out quick, then ya know if it's just sex or if there might be more...it seems to work for me anyway...oh yeah, my kids are 26 & 23...i'm 47....divorced in 1994...lived with one with a child...too tough on the kids if ya break up...that's why no kids for me...good luck & heck man...have fun, your in your 30's
     
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    OP- I hope I read your question correctly. Here are my thoughts-

    First- Be honest with yourself in terms of knowing what you want. Do you want kids, does the other party have or want kids. Find your solid ground and stick with it. Dont let anyone change your mind.

    Second- "Communication is Key". Atleast it is for me. If I am seeing someone, just be honest and upfront about issues. Dont lay all of your cards on the table, just be upfront.

    Third- Take things slow. Dont rush to the "boyfriend" and "girlfriend" titles. I have and then it feels like your under arrest or something. You are now tied to this person by a title and must chat and text on a regular and continuous basis- BS! Take it slow and easy, titles dont mean crap.

    Next- Never give someone youre dating your credit card for shopping.

    Lastly- For me, I got a lot from Tom Leykis on dating, relationships and marriage. Please check out his sound clips here- Tenets of Leykis 101. Click on a subject and scroll down for the sound clips. Seriously, check it out.
     
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