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Crazy story about an old friend

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by ysr_racer, Jan 13, 2018 at 7:47 PM.

  1. ysr_racer

    ysr_racer

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    I met Ken in 1980 in Tempe Arizona (he's 58 now). We were going to ASU and lived in the same building. We became friends, and continued that friendship long after college. I was in his wedding, he was in mine. We’d visit each other, ride motorcycles together the normal stuff you do with lifelong friends.

    I ended up in So Cal, he ended up in the Bay Area.

    Eight years ago he started to no longer returning my calls. If I went to the Bay Area he'd have some lame reason why he couldn’t meet me. If he came to So Cal, I'd hear about it after he left. If you call someone eight or ten times and get no answer, there’s your answer.

    I told my wife, when he has time for me, he’ll call me. I hadn’t heard from him in eight years. His brother texted me on Monday.

    Ken's 100% disabled and needs 24/7 care. He can't walk, feed himself, clean himself, or do anything for himself.

    He was fine until about 18 months ago, when he had prostate surgery. Then a heart attack, then another where his brain went 15 minutes without oxygen. Then he was in a coma for six weeks, then pneumonia, then kidney failure...

    I of course knew none of this. The reason his brother texted me is Ken started asking for me by name about two weeks ago.

    I told his brother we made some pact when we were kids that if either one of us was like this, the other would put a gun in his hand, and leave the room.

    He said his brother has told him he doesn't want to live like this, and has pulled out his feeding tube multiple times. The doctors removed it on Friday. At this point he's in control of his own fate. Eat and drink and live, or die.

    I'm flying up there on Tuesday. I hope he lives that long. I'll probably never know why he stopped calling me back.

    Crazy story, right?
     
  2. RenoF250

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    Wow, sounds like a real poop sammich.

    There won't be much left by Tuesday if he is not getting liquids.
     
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    That sucks. Hope he finds peace and that you are okay as well
     
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    Ross-in-Pa Western Pa

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    Ramjet38 SONS OF LIBERTY

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    Sorry to hear that about your friend, but you're going to disappoint him when he sees you, and then you leave.
     
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    Don’t incriminate yourself with a web trail:impatient:

    Sorry about your friend
     
  7. John Wesley

    John Wesley NRA "Benefactor Life" Member

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    Sorry to hear of this. Close friends are hard to come by. When his health started to decline he probably, socially shut down. Human nature to recluse and distance yourself. It's not only life but quality of life. Hope you have a chance to say goodbye and both remember the good days.
     
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    Oh yeah, due to the coma/TBI no short term memory.
     
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    Yes. Due to the nature of my job, I'm forced to always carry a pistol.
     
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    Ramjet38 SONS OF LIBERTY

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    I hope he rests in peace.
     
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    Prayers for your friend.
     
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    Retirement?
     
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    You got laid off. :dunno:
     
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    I send best wishes and a prayer for you and your friend. Even more for you in the future, as that you're going to have a heavy weight to bear. I say that because I lost my very, very, best friend in NAM in '67, we went there together in '65. If one stayed so would the other to watch out for one another. I have never to this day gotten close to anyone,I can't. Even with my wife it goes so far then stops but never a 100%, she knows it.
     
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    @ROSS-n-pa....That is so wrong on many accounts. Geeze get a life outside the basement!!! You have made my first ignore list. I just this was important enough to make a couple of posts. TIA
     
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    Wow, that is so wrong on so many levels...Congrats. You are the first to make my "ignore" list
     
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    You did it wrong, bucky. It’s @Ross-in-Pa. :wavey:

    Hey @Ross-in-Pa,
    I still like ya, buddy! :supergrin:
     
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    Landlord, collecting the rent?
     
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    Lmao
    May as well put me on it too, because I’ll offend you at some point if you’re that easy.
     
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