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Brother in law in motorcycle accident last night

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by rgb03, Nov 12, 2012.

  1. rgb03

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    Feel pretty s***ty right now. He crashed his bike last night and wasnt wearing a helmet but had it strapped to the bike. Makes a lot of sence right.

    As of last night and today he is in a medically induced coma. He has a lacerated scalp and is bleeding around the brain and looks like he may have a bloody bruse on the brain. He has a bolt in his head to monitor pressure around his brain.

    The neurological surgeon said as of right now there is a less then 50% chance of having to operate and everything seems to be normal for ths type of injury and he should recover fully.

    Now to why I feel s***ty about this whole thing. My bil has been unemployed and living in my basement for alittle over a year now. He has always been there to help me do things when I asked. But lately I have been feeling like he was a non contributing family member and just thought it was time for him to move on.

    Now in light of this accident and realizing how fragile life is I feel like a piece of s**t for being so petty. God I hope he recovers fully and we can mend any difference we may have. I have always loved him but didn't realize how much until last night.

    I called out of work today and tomarow. The coordinator told me not to worry and do what I needed to do. Now while I like taking off I don't like to call out as this screws up are schedule. So I called the big cheese to apologize and let him know what was up. The best he could come up with was to do what I needed to do and I could help make it by working some saturadays or something. What a *******ing a**hole.

    Sorry for rambling people just needed to vent.
     
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  2. ked

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    1st, i hope things go well with his recovery.
    2nd, your feelings, if warranted, have no bearing on the accident. it was an accident and HE decided not to wear his helmet.
    3rd, life IS fragile. it is good to guard your heart and words, and remember to forgive quickly. good luck on mending the fences.

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  3. Baba Louie

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    rgb, Prayers for your BIL and family. Hope he pulls thru relatively unscathed as he fully recovers.

    Any chance of repairing his bike as your own form of therapy?
     
  4. Sharkey

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    Well said.


    Also, If he was responsible enough to contribute to the family, he'd probably be responsible enough to take precautions when riding. Sadly, we often times contribute to our own demise.
     
  5. Berto

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    I hope he recovers fully.
     
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    I hate helmet laws.

    I also wouldn't hardly ride without one.

    I loved being able to slip off the helmet and hang it on the mirror on stop and go city traffic, such as at the beach where you move 5 feet at a time.

    As soon as we were moving normally it was back on my head strapped.

    Here is hoping for a speedy recovery.
     
  7. rgb03

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    Thanks guys.

    What's even more crazy for me is we were all going to a eagles game and I decided not to go due to fighting with the wife. So if I would have went he wouldn't have been driving. He wasn't drinking and actually drove my friend home in my friends truck because my friend had been drinking. The accident happened about 8 houses up from my friends house. He didn't see it but said he heard his bike rev pretty loud and is sounded like he may have missed a gear or something. The next thing he heard was the bike hitting the ground and sliding across the street. So he was first on the scene and apparently it wasn't to pretty.

    Thanks to the local pd and fd that left the pile of bloody clothes for me to pick threw and get his personals out. At least they offered me gloves.:steamed:
     
  8. Detectorist

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    Repeat after me: "It was not my fault"
    Do that 1,000 times. You have nothing to feel guilty about.

    There was an ad in a motorcycle magazine years ago trying to encourage riders to use a helmet. It read:

    "Wayne Rainey wears a helmet when riding the streets. Are you as good as he is?"

    That ad rung so true.....
     
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  9. Gallium

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    I hope he recovers, and you have a chance to normalize your relationship.

    Adult decisions have sometimes have painful and deadly consequences. I hope he has the intestinal fortitude to live with his. The biggest problem is not him living with it, it's all the other people in our lives that also have to deal with the messes we create.
     
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    Hoping he recovers quickly and fully.
     
  11. rgb03

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    Thank you.
    This has crossed my mind. Just got of the phone with my friend that he was with and who has the bike in his yard. He tells me the damage is not that bad. A small crack on the front fearing and some road rash down the side. I am sure it will be a good idea to have it looked at by a professional to make sure nothing is bent that can't be seen. But right now we are not to worried about the bike.

    Hopefully everything turns out good. If he decides to get back on the bike I know someone will be getting a helmet that fits correctly for Christmas. Then there will be no excuses for not wearing one.
     
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    Damn double tap
     
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    Prayers sent... Stuff like this is why I dont ride anymore. Just too dangerous.
     
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    We, each of us, make our own decisions. Others only have opinions.
     
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    May your brother-in-law fully recover and get back to enjoying motorcycles. And hopefully this thread will change the mind of some of those who ride without protective gear.
     
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    Risk is fun. Sometimes, it bites you in the ***, though.

    Hope he recovers quickly.
     
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    dont feel bad about all the other stuff just because he got hurt , to many people knee jerk upon these times. just because he got hurt dont make him any less a leech . but i do hope he recovers and you can feel better
     
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    This is exactly the reason why I plan on always wearing a helmet and as much riding gear as I can handle. Really hope your BIL recovers fully, and hopefully he starts always wearing his helmet from now on.
     
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    Hope he comes out with a full recovery.