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Being responsible for others possessions

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Alchemy, Mar 10, 2012.

  1. Alchemy

    Alchemy Senior Member

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    I'll make this as short and to the point as possible. My brother-
    in-law somehow feels that it is necessary to use my safe to
    keep 40K and a 20K Rolex in my safe. Not to mention the
    fact that he four safes of his own. Unfortunately he has lost
    the combinations to all of his own safes.

    This situation makes me very uncomfortable, as I am now
    responsible for his belongings. I know that I could convey
    my feelings to him, but my wife fights me on this issue and
    im tired of arguing with her about it.

    I think that the situation is obvious. To Hell with my wife's
    feelings on this matter and tell him that I don't feel comfortable
    with this situation.

    So what say you all. Have any of you been put in a similar
    situation with other people's property?
     
  2. NDcent

    NDcent Socially Inept

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    Tell him you lost the combination... :whistling:
     

  3. Highspeedlane

    Highspeedlane NRA Life Member

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    Yes!

    Just yesterday I was at my routine dental appointment. My dentist is in his 60's and loves to talk to me about the military (he never served but his admiration for those who do and have served is like nothing I've ever seen).

    We were talking about how in the old days the nation pulled together to support national defense causes, unlike today in which it seems you can't get a consensus on anything, with everyone second guessing.

    On the way out he asked me if I'd read the book, "Flags Of Our Fathers". I told him I hadn't. He proceeds to get his copy out of his office. It's not just a copy of the book, it's been autographed by a former US Marine who fought on nearly every Pacific island, including Iwo Jima!

    I tried to beg out of it but he insisted and knowing what a good guy he is I caved and accepted. I immediately put it in a zip lock bag when I got home. I intend to read it but I'm petrified I'll get a stain on it or something.

    I feel like I should have white gloves on when handling it. Wow.
     
  4. Patchman

    Patchman Florist

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    Hell, tell him not only did you lose your own combination, you misplaced the entire safe. :cool:

    Then give him the name and address of the nearest bank that rents safe deposit boxes.
     
  5. Rinspeed

    Rinspeed JAFO

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    What is he into cocaine trafficking. :dunno:
     
  6. M2 Carbine

    M2 Carbine

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    In the past I have held things for people. Although I will take reasonable precautions to protect their stuff, I tell them I am not responsible for what happens to their property.


    I'm not sure of the law but I think if you agree to do something like this then you are responsible to take reasonable care of their property. I guess a court would have to decide what's reasonable.


    Bottom line.
    If your brother-in-law can afford 20-40K toys, he can damned sure afford a twenty dollar bank box.
     
  7. MO Fugga

    MO Fugga Malt Liqra® Lifetime Member

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    Safety deposit box FTMFW.


    How much does he want for them 4 safes plus delivery? :whistling:
     
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  8. Clay1

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    We have always kidded around in my family with the statement that you can borrow my wife, (you won't break anything there) but you can't borrow my guns. I don't like to lend others my tools or my car or borrow things from them either. If anything goes wrong you could loose a friendship over it.

    A very good friend at work wants to borrow my $800 concrete drill for a project. I lend it to him, it comes back to me with mud packed in the venting area of the drill. I take an hour to clean it up. Next he wants to use my $1500 laser level for a project. After work he brings it back. It's raining out and it was left in the back of his open pickup bed - not locked in the rain. He asked again for some concrete tools and I just told him that we both have a vastly different level or concept of how tools should be treated and I couldn't lend him another tool. We're still friends but if this guy treated one more thing of mine badly we probably wouldn't be friends any longer.

    I know this isn't about lending stuff, but when you have responsibility for someone else's things you are in the same boat. Get that stuff out of your safe and stay friends.
     
  9. Alchemy

    Alchemy Senior Member

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    No. He's a very successful logger who owns his own company


    I agree Buck, but he'd probably loose the damn safe deposit
    box key. He's 76 yrs old and if he just up's and dies what
    is in my safe just became mine. His wife has Alzheimers and
    neither her or his Daughter knows anything about it.
     
  10. Cclass

    Cclass CLM

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    ^ This.

    Or he can get a 5th safe and keep a copy of the combo in your safe. :supergrin:
     
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    Easterbrook Wagon Burner

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    Sounds legal and ethical.




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  12. gjk5

    gjk5 Pinche Gringo

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    Stay classy.
     
  13. M2 Carbine

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    You could keep the key in your safe.:)


    If he agrees to this and would want you (or your Wife) to have the stuff when he dies I would keep the stuff in the safe for him.


    In any case, unless I just didn't like the man, and I had room I'd probably keep the stuff in the safe for him.

    AND I would encourage him to get those other safes opened.
    Also I would encourage him to keep an up to date, detailed Will, so his stuff will go where he wants, instead of going to the Vultures that descend when someone dies.
     
  14. Diesel_Bomber

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    Buy another copy of the book. Leave your dentist's copy in the bag. Read your copy of the book. Return your dentist's copy when you're done reading your copy and tell him how fantastic it was and how much you appreciate the loan.
     
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    Oops double tap.
     
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  16. Highspeedlane

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    That's actually what I think I'm going to do.
     
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    I think there's more to this than "He lost the combinations to all of his safes." And you may find yourself in hot water when you find out the hard way.
     
  18. DustyJacket

    DustyJacket Directiv 10-289

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    Hopefully it is not $40,000 he failed to report to the IRS. That would probably make you an accessory.

    Or else he is planning a divorce and doesn't want anyone to know about it.

    Have him sign a document that if he dies while it is in your safe, it is now yours. His estate may have to pay an estate tax, but it is tax-free to you.
     
  19. ysr_racer

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    Plenty of room in my safe for his 40k & Rolex, pm me :)
     
  20. Tx-SIG229

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    i have room in my safe that i'll rent out for 5k a month...