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Are you "approachable?"

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by itisbruno, May 16, 2017.

  1. itisbruno

    itisbruno Devious Member CLM

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    When you are in public, do you have folks frequently great and speak to you?

    Anytime I'm out shopping, on the walking trail, at parks, whatever, folks always approach me and strike up a conversation.

    Is this just a midwest thing?

    Or, is it because I'm so damn good lookin'?
     
  2. PBCounty

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    I get approached all the time. I also make a lot of eye contact with people, have an open posture, I smile, dress well, etc. Being approachable is very intentional for me.
     

  3. Ricky Ricardo

    Ricky Ricardo Incorrigible

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    Well, you are good lookin' my brother, but folks talk to me often also. I gotta start working on my mean face.
     
  4. Jsferrazza

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    People tend to tell me how "mean" or "unapproachable" I look, and are surprised as to how pleasant I actually am once they get to know me.

    Some refer to this as "resting b!tch face" on women. Not sure what the proper name for it on men is.

    :supergrin:
     
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  5. Sniffler

    Sniffler Unruly Silver Member

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    It'd be like petting a badger.
     
  6. G30SF/F-250

    G30SF/F-250 Pinky Out Platinum Member

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    Being hawt like I am I always get approached or solicited and it isn't just a regional thing. All my traveling I can attest that it is the same everywhere.

    I was just in Home Depot and was asked many times if I needed help. Yeah right, nice try dude but I'm not here looking for the D. :upeyes:

    Now I need to run into WalMart for a couple things, I can only imagine what will happen in there and how many times I will get eye F'ed......:sigh:
     
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    itisbruno Devious Member CLM

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    Sounds like you are slowly approaching my level of awesomeness.

    :cool:
     
  8. Borg Warner

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    All my life crazy people have sought me out and so I'm no longer surprised or alarmed when that happens, but it seems to be happening less now that I'm older and I live out in the country where there are fewer crazy people. With normal people I pretty much have always tried to blend in and pass as one of them.
     
  9. G30SF/F-250

    G30SF/F-250 Pinky Out Platinum Member

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    At some point I am going to need some tips from you on how to deal with this day in day out.
     
  10. Green Dragoon

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    My wife says I'm a little "stand offish" appearance wise. My kids are older now and they say their friends and even friends parents were always a bit intimidated by me and then when they got to know me, they realized I was a softee.

    I think it is because I'm tallish, walk pretty confidently and I suffer from "arse hole resting face". Maybe its an Anglo Saxon thing.
     
  11. deputy tom

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    Little old ladies and men like to strike up conversations with me in public places. Everyone else runs away. I don't know why. tom. :dunno:
     
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    Sniffler Unruly Silver Member

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    Uh-huh :eyebrow:
     
  13. RustyL

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    No, I always have my stank eye going and appears that I'm frowning but I'm not intentionally.
     
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    I get a lot of Hi(s) and Nods but not a lot of people who I don't know trying to make conversation. However, what I do get are people who barely get to know me think it's a great idea to tell me things they would not likely say to most people. 'I don't know why you are telling me about that time you did coke in Miami when, by the tone of your voice, you aren't wanting people to know'. My wife says I come off as very non judgemental and that's why I have friends from such a wide walk of life.

    What I am not good at is breaking off from the idle chit chat 'How you been' stuff at social engagements. It reaches that uncomfortable silence and all I've got is 'Well, it's good seein ya' and wander off.
     
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    After dinner out with a couple of ladies I knew in town we were walking to a parking lot and a young couple asked me for directions.

    One of my companions said "Every time I'm around you people always ask you for directions.". Before I could say anything, the other lady said "That's because he looks like he lives on the street.".

    Maybe I should start carrying a paper cup and a squeegee. Pick up some spare change.

    Dave
     
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    This is where everyone brags about how large, muscular and intimidating they are.

    Me? Im not a super friendly guy but I smile and/or nod when passing most people so I get the same respect back but I do not like when a stranger talks my ear off and try to leave little opportunity for people to come talk to me in public.
     
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    Badger on coke in my case.
    Hookers seem to like me:dunno:
     
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    Sniffler Unruly Silver Member

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    As long as you have cash and/or drugs hookers and strippers will "like" you.
     
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    I'm not large, muscular or intimidating as far as I know but I do smile and they still run away. You tell me. tom. :dunno:
     
  20. JBnTX

    JBnTX 2 Timothy 2:15

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    Like President Trump, I don't smile and I've been told that I look like I'd kill the first person who speaks to me.

    But I'm really a nice guy.