Anyone been through a BREAK-Up recently?

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  1. Peace Warrior

    Peace Warrior Am Yisrael Chai CLM

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    Did it suck?!?

    I don't have the typical vices (drinking, drugs etc.), so instead I've been in bed or the computer all day playing video games and using food for comfort. My meal(s) today have consisted of 1 1/2 pounds of sliced meat from the deli on four or five sandwiches along with about a half-gallon of ice cream.

    I knew this coming (for over a week), but I didn't think I'd be so worse for wear when it was finalized.


    Sucks to be me right now...

    (any Christians out there with some advice or encouragement? If so, I am all ears!)
     
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    You might talk to BEER. The guy, not the drink. At least you didn't break up over your girl being pregnant with another guys baby.
     

  3. Peace Warrior

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    Yeah, I remember Beer's thread... at least this ain't that bad.
     
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    Just give it time and you will start feeling better. I have been single for over 2 years because i got tired of all the drama. Hope you feel better.
     
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    Yeah just a week and a half ago. Mine made no sense at all and I didn't see it coming, seemed to me like we were in love just the weekend before. I got alittle attitude with her the day or two before but nothing that should have been a deal breaker.

    But I am taking my time, last week my thoughts were consumed by it, second guessing the way I acted, and she still crosses my mind fairly often. Time makes it better though.

    I did the opposite of you however, I had no appetite what so ever and lost several pounds over the week. I talked to my mom alot which I have never really done, and we grew closer because of it. This weekend even though I had a ton of school work that needed to be done, I did none of it. Friday night I went out and got really drunk then the rest of the weekend was on the couch being a bum. While I still am in shock and disbelief I have now turned to my school work, number one out necessity, but also as a means to occupy my mind.

    The way I see it is if it really had legs, and there was no infidelity, you may get back together. I am not counting on that but it does take the sting out a little to have some hope.

    At the end of the day though it just takes time, and after awhile there's always new ones out there :supergrin:
     
  6. Peace Warrior

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    Due to personal spiritual convictions I was single for a long time previous to this relationship. The drama was definitely there intermingled with the relational connections (e.g. emotional intimacies).

    Thanks.
     
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  7. Peace Warrior

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    No appetite? Man, my "healthy diet" went out the window quick!

    My mind seems to be thinking of nothing else today. (We broke up last night/early this AM.)

    There was no infidelity from either of us. It started with a stupid little lie that I caught her in about a week and a half ago. This quickly went nuclear at the time. Then we patch things up, so I thought, but you know how the effects of radiation linger? Yeah... that's what came back to bite us in the rump on this whole deal.

    Thanks.
    Yeah, I've been talking to a published author lately about getting some of my stuff professionally published and into REAL book stores. She has three books out and one on its way.

    Anyway, we've been strictly platonic and just friends up till now, but she has mentioned several times the fact that she likes me and we have discussed dating on a relational level prior. Long story short, we have an "actual date" set for next week. If it were tomorrow I'd cancel, but we'll see what happens between now and next week.
     
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    Romans 8:18
    Romans 5:3-5
    Proverbs 21:9
    Proverbs 3:5-6

    :wavey:
     
  9. Peace Warrior

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    Thanks Bro.
     
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    That's actually a good sign. It proves you are passionate about each other - it proves you both still care. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. If you are able to see past your differences, you might have a chance of getting back together.
     
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    Hang in there man, and pick up the phone if you can't sleep.
     
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    Peace, I literally was broken up with about a week ago, yes it sucked. I thought this girl was perfect. She was the girl I had a middle school crush on and never thought I would ever get with. Every breakup is different, for me I just hung out with some of my best friends because they wanted nothing more than to make me feel better. After that I took the puppy to the dog park (mans best friend helps too). Once I was out and about for awhile I relized she wasnt right for me and am now back on the prowl.......Good luck and dont let yourself get too down, lifes too short.
     
  13. Peace Warrior

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    Yeah, I'm thinking wait a couple two or three moths, and see where we are at at that time. If it is/was real, then it should be there in three months right?

    Thanks.
     
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    Thanks man. I've avoided two of her calls tonight already. I finally "lucked out" and was able to chat with her, but by -im's-.

    We both agreed it went too fast too soon. She also admitted to repeatedly testing me on some relational paradigm things that were important to her due to her past history. She actually said I passed the first few tests with flying colors, but due to her trust issues, she just kept trying me over and over.
     
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    Yeah. I got a date next week. First with someone else since last August. If I don't cancel, it will be interesting to see how it goes.

    Thanks.
     
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    my methods won't work for you, so all i can tell you is look on the bright side and say to yourself "well it could be worse, at least i aint that guy." lol

    seriously though, just take your time, do your thing, and always remember the 2 basic rules of life...

    1) don't sweat the small ****.

    2) as long as you're waking up on this side of the dirt EVERYTHING is small ****.
    :wavey:
     
  17. Peace Warrior

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    Good advice Beer,

    I receive it too.

    Thanks. :wavey:
     
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    Break-Ups are no fun my friend, my advice keep your mind active. What do you like to do? Hobbies? Focus on positive things......that you enjoy doing....be a little selfish right now, by that I mean do things you want to do for your self and enjoy doing, but do keep your mind busy...Friends and family are also nice to talk to........Stay healthy and positive, the gym is also good, goo outlet to get out frustrations, and maybe anger/sadness, beside it being good for you.