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$100mil won by someone close to you that you've helped out.

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by JW1178, Aug 10, 2012.

  1. JW1178

    JW1178

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    Spin off of the other thread, but this time, someone close to you wins after taxes 100million. Someone who you have selflessly helped out before. Would you want them to help you out? What if they didn't?

    Well that other thread reminded me of something. I used to date this girl, but even after we stopped dating, I still helped her a lot. So many times I gave her rides, and not short ones. Several times I bought her phone cards so she could use her pre-paid phone. Most of all, paid her co-pay on her surgery, as well as her expensive prescription medicine. Loaned her money several times. She always promised to pay back, but never did. Anyways, she got a settlement from a lawsuit and after everything was cleared, banked about $80,000. Well, I didn't ask for anything but after that I didn't hear from her for a while. She went out bought herself a new car, spent a bunch of money on some "friends" that suddenly missed her after the settlement but were absent while she was in need. I was waiting for her to remember me, but she didn't. I asked her about the loans and phone cards she promised to repay and she just never responded back. Well, fast forward five months, she's in a rehab center and she is calling me to come get her to take her home. I asked her where her friends are. She said "busy at work and can't come" and I said "so am I". If she had just paid back the loans I would have been okay. If she had paid back all the money I spent on her or something close, that would have been great. If she had threw in a few extra hundred to cover my time and efforts helping her, that would have really said a lot about her, but NOTHING when she owed me money while handing out cash to people who use her? Since then I have never spoken to her. No, it's not about money, it's about character.
     
  2. Dennis in MA

    Dennis in MA Get off my lawn

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    I don't expect anything but friendship from friends

    It is said if you equally divided the country's wealth per capita, within 5 years the poor would be poor again and the rich rich. This is proven out by countless bankrupt or financially destitute Lotto winners.
     

  3. Gregg702

    Gregg702 Gold Member

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    An extravagant gift would be nice, but not expected.
     
  4. NeverMore1701

    NeverMore1701 Fear no Evil Platinum Member

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    I would appreciate, but not expect.
     
  5. HollowHead

    HollowHead Firm member

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    I have a feeling this will fuel this thread. HH
     
  6. JMS

    JMS 02

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    You let yourself get used by a user and you expect her to treat you with respect? :rofl:
     
  7. G36's Rule

    G36's Rule Senior Member

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    I expect nothing of people. Even family.
     
  8. certifiedfunds

    certifiedfunds Tewwowist

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    Don't loan friends or family money. GIVE them money. Then you'll never be disappointed.
     
  9. Hour13

    Hour13 Tah-dah!

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    You'll never have to help them again.

    Win.
     
  10. Clydesdale

    Clydesdale Mafioso

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    I hope you were at least hitting it while you were giving her rides, phone cards, and copays.
     
  11. ray9898

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    Money does not change a persons character.
     
  12. jame

    jame I don't even know....what I'm doing here....

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    Favors and gifts are given without expectation.

    Anything else is a loan.
     
  13. jame

    jame I don't even know....what I'm doing here....

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    You gotta be kidding…….
     
  14. AZLawDawg

    AZLawDawg Oh, Oh, Oh!!

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  15. AZLawDawg

    AZLawDawg Oh, Oh, Oh!!

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    I don't agree with you 100 percent here, giving a person money/power will reveal who they really are. Some may be the same great friend that you've always known, others - not so much. This of course, is just my opinion.
     
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  16. Hour13

    Hour13 Tah-dah!

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    Coming into a huge amount of money is a drastic change(for most). Like any other drastic change, it will change you.


    "Money won't change me."

    "Having kids won't change me."

    "Dating this stripper won't change me."


    Bullspit.


    Right up there with "Money can't buy happiness". Easy to say when you haven't had to go without.

    I have gone without. I've lived the cycle of rent always coming a week(or two) before payday. Sleepless nights staring at the "final notice" utility bills and an empty wallet. The humiliation of the in-laws' B-day/X-mas gifts to my kids severely outshining what I could provide. The gnawing hunger of constantly choosing gas to get to work the next day over a decent meal.

    Now days?

    I don't recall the last time I sweated a bill. My belly & the gas tank in my cars are never empty. If my kids want something(and deserve it, lol), they get it. If I want a new gun, I get it. I can afford to take a week off on whim, and go camping with old friends to catch up. If my girlfriend wants to go wine sampling, we just go.

    I used to be miserable.

    Now I'm happy.

    Why?



    Now, I make more money than I need, instead of the other way around.

    ...
     
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  17. eagle359

    eagle359 Glock Fanboi

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    Over the last 15 years my son in law is into me for about $10,000. I can only guess at how much my wife has given her daughter. Sometimes he has a hard time holding a job. Right now he is making good money. They are taking good vacations and buying some stuff. But no cash has seemed to find its way back to me. I asked him if he was putting anything aside-no real answer. I am not really mad, I guess it is just the cost of having family.
     
  18. tantrix

    tantrix J'aimeLouisiane

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    100% true, and something very few on this forum have ever really experienced. I am right there with you, gone from one end of the spectrum to the other. And you're right...money changes your entire perspective on life.
     
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  19. Hour13

    Hour13 Tah-dah!

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    Sounds awful, but it's very true. Nice to hear from somebody who has been through the pendulum swing as well.

    If you ever find yourself in TX brother, first round is on me.

    :cheers:
     
  20. eracer

    eracer Where's my EBT?

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    The world does not owe you anything.