“Why do women vanish when I tell them I'm a trans guy?”

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  1. DonGlock26

    DonGlock26

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    I guess women (so inclusive, so loving, so progressive) are NIMBY daters after all. :animlol:

    "I Asked Reddit Why Trans Guys Like Me Keep Getting Ghosted


    The subreddit /r/dating_advice didn't hold back, but I actually found the replies strangely cathartic.

    Internet dating when I was a lesbian was infinitely easier than how it is now as a trans man. Granted that was years ago when only saddos partook and the rest of the world hadn’t joined in to ruin it for us. Ghosting wasn’t even a word back then, let alone a tolerated behaviour.

    Now dating online is like rifling through the bargain bin in your local supermarket – you scan the aisles quickly for something that catches your eye with little attention paid to anything else. Swipe, swipe, swipe.


    But dating as a lesbian was more understood, too. People know what that means. As a trans guy, the majority don’t seem to know what to make of me, so they run away. I’ve played around with the big reveal and I know the two are linked. It’s hard not to see a connection when you arrange a second date, drop the T bomb and then she cancels in the next breath.

    So, I did the most obvious thing to try and understand what was going on – I asked randoms on Reddit. “Why do women vanish when I tell them I'm a trans guy?”

    https://www.vice.com/en_uk/article/...-advice?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=twitter "
     
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  2. Bullwinkle J Moose

    Bullwinkle J Moose Quick! Duck!

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    Now we know how to ditch a woman.
     
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  3. DonGlock26

    DonGlock26

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    LOL!!!
     
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  4. 'Ol Grandad

    'Ol Grandad Director of civil unrest

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    Fruitcakes gonna fruitcake.
     
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  5. Dr. Bill

    Dr. Bill

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    We need to pass some laws making dumping this kind of person illegal.

    Dont'cha think?
     
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  6. G26-Has-my-6

    G26-Has-my-6

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    I saw a similar question with a similar answer...

    Why do women vanish when I tell them I'm (a) an...

    alien
    robot
    frankenstein
    ....
     
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  7. Gino

    Gino Millennium Member

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    I actually feel sorry for the girl/guy. They just don't get it. The MSM have given them unrealistic expectations. The MSM have painted such an unrealistic picture of the world that it just doesn't work for real. I've long felt that the people who support the trans community are just making themselves feel better, at the cost of the trans community. The doctors, psychologists, activists, etc are making money/power/fame off them, but I strongly question if they actually care about them as individual people.


    Also, why are they making such a big deal of such a small percentage of the population?
     
  8. Schrag4

    Schrag4

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    "But dating as a lesbian was more understood, too. People know what that means."

    I still have trouble keeping it straight. Is a trans-male a male that used to be a female or a female that used to be a male? I think the reason haven't learned it, yet, is because deep down, I know that no normal person would consider for a second dating anyone who has transitioned in either direction. I understand that's looked at as "bigoted" in this age, but you can't blame people for what turns them on or what turns them off.
     
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  9. Rinspeed

    Rinspeed JAFO

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    What happened to the day when these fruitcakes just suffered in silence. :dunno:
     
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    sciolist On the Border

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    Maybe because gender's determined at birth?
     
  11. M&P15T

    M&P15T All Hail King Kona

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    Because they like penis?

    There's a deep-seated narcissism and hubris in not understanding why people do not like being lied to.

    What I do like reading in that article, is that women are still interested in biological men. That's at least one positive.
     
  12. BlueTrane2028

    BlueTrane2028

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    Could it be that most women want their men to have real, natural penises attached to them? Could it be that lesbians want their partners to look like women?

    Just thinking aloud...
     
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  13. Tomcat1977

    Tomcat1977 Unapologetic Deplorable.

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    No matter what the Trannies do most people, even the homosexual ones, are going to think they are weird. Especially when they start whinging to use bathrooms they don't have the equipment for.

    Many of us don't need a PHD to tell us what a weirdo perv, probably pedo is.
     
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    FullClip Native Mainiac CLM

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    Maybe because the complainer looks a lot like this??

    upload_2019-11-6_15-21-1.jpeg
     
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    There are consequences to being a freak with mental illness.
     
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    Baba Louie

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    Because you look like Chaz Bono? :dunno:
     
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    Well, that was most interesting.

    :eyelashes:
     
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    larry_minn Silver Member Millennium Member

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    I recall looking st dating sites. Even then they had catagories. To make it easy to find what you were looking for. Men looking for women, women looking for men, men looking for men.... Then age, location, interests....
    I did online dating @2000. Was very frank. Actually met, went on a date with two gals. Of course then I met my future wife. The one I had zero interest in going out with again. The other was nice... But I had been on few dates with future wife. I was thinking she might be the one... So I told the online gal I was off the market. She asked me to keep her phone number if I changed my mind.
    I would have been upset if instead we had dated more, gotten friendly, I found she was a he.
    I have taken dates home early for less.
     
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    So, am I bad for laughing at some of these responses? lol....

    (Rinspeed, that was funny!)
     
  20. G30SF/F-250

    G30SF/F-250 Pinky Out Platinum Member

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    Now I am wondering if I would make out with a trans dude because technically he was a chick first.....



    I am pretty sure I would.