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Wow... I am too masculine for where I work? WTF?!?!

Discussion in 'The Okie Corral' started by Glock20 10mm, Jan 9, 2013.

  1. clancy


    Feb 16, 2011

    It is, unfortunately, all too true. I have been accused of "standing aggressively" at my present job, more than once. As I work at an ultra-liberal agency for people with disabilities, I am surrounded by metro-sexual and, to be nice, less than manly men.

    You guys should appreciate this. At a training on workplace violence, the presenter asked everyone in the room if anyone had ever been in a fight on their job. There was maybe 100 of us there. I was the only one to raise his hand. The presenter again asked if anyone had ever been in more than one fight on their job. Again, I was the only one to raise their hand. To say the room got silent, and I got lots of awkward looks would be an understatement. That afternoon I was called in to HR, and the questions started. I was able to explain that I had worked as a bartender and bouncer at a local bar, and at one point I had a fight on my hands every night for about 6 months straight. I also explained that was the primary reason why I decided on a major career change. I still get looked at askance by many of my coworkers, but I don't really give a damn.
  2. Tango 1Zero

    Tango 1Zero Millennium Member

    Nov 8, 1999
    Start recording your meetings.

  3. RenoF250


    Feb 23, 2008
    Wear more pink.
  4. jay-bird

    jay-bird goin' broke

    May 17, 2011
    If you meet with HR, use intellect over reason in any and all arguments or defenses you use. HR higher-ups are used to dissecting emotional issues at work. Don't play on those terms or you'll lose. Edit - and there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Just keep a level head. Thank you for your service to this (once, and will be again) great nation.
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  5. aimatdeer

    aimatdeer Large Member

    Aug 18, 2005
    hamilton, ohio
    With the right lawyer you could possibly run with this.
  6. Geeorge

    Geeorge Sarcasm Inc.

    I to have had the complaint about being scared of me for no reason,mostly by the do nothings at work,

    Good luck with the situation

    I have considered wearing a brite colored scarf and a hat with a feather to mess with them:wavey:
  7. Never Nervous

    Never Nervous

    Aug 18, 2009
    Metro ATL
    This need to be a part of your work history. You never know.
    Are the classes you will attend be anger management of some sort?

  8. elsolo


    Aug 4, 2003
    I was accused of something similar several years ago, being too "mean looking" and "intimidating" by a few of the factory floor workers.

    I made a conscious effort to use "please" and/or "thank you" in every verbal communication from that point forward.

    The complainers still complained, but the higher ups dismissed it because I was known to be so polite.
  9. Glock20 10mm

    Glock20 10mm Use Linux!

    Maybe I need to change the lyrics to this song to I am to masculine to work! LOL!!!

    [ame=""]Right Said Fred - I`m Too Sexy (The Original) - YouTube[/ame]
  10. Right!
  11. Detectorist


    Jul 16, 2008
    What planet do you live on? People's perception of you can affect your job and relationships.
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  12. Willfulone

    Willfulone CCA Corvette

    Dec 14, 2012
    HR is already involved, or your boss is an complete idiot.

    He would/should never have spoken to you about this type
    of issue without speaking to HR first...

    If he did, he has placed himself in jeopardy.

    Filing a counter complaint will get you nothing, it will
    be amended to the original complaint and is most often
    looked at as antagonistic and defencive.

    You do have a right to know who has filed the complaint.

    What you cam be assured of, unless your boss is an idiot,
    is that there is a written complaint against you now in your file.

  13. Huaco Kid

    Huaco Kid

    Mar 11, 2007
    I'm 5' 8" and 140 lbs. I rarely have a deep booming voice (I can if I really mean to). I am usually a VERY quiet and soft spoken person.

    I've been told that I can be very intimidating with just this intense glare that I seem to produce, from time to time. I think I know what they mean but I'm not really sure. I've been told that more than a few times, even though I'm never really aware that I've done it.
  14. el_jewapo


    Feb 1, 2005
    You need to get out of that **** hole state you're in.
  15. airmotive

    airmotive Tin Kicker

    Nov 19, 2007
    Debris Field
    Two words to solve your problems: Man Purse.

    Tactical...yet feminizing.
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  16. I had a buddy at my old job that got told the exact same thing. He was a pretty tall guy with a deeper voice. I found it hilarious then and hilarious now. It didn't effect him professionally that I know of. It was more of a "we have to find something negative for your review" kind of thing.
  17. Roering

    Roering Sorting nuts

    Feb 14, 2008
    Costa Mesa
    Just wear skinny jeans and sashe instead of walking.
  18. vikingsoftpaw

    vikingsoftpaw DEPLORABLE ME!

    Aug 29, 2009
    Willoughby, Ohio USA
    Clearly, your military bearing is having an effect on the other around you. A society of slackers is just too touchy-feely for someone that is goal oriented.

    I had a neighbor that once stated she didn't care for all of the former military types at her company. She said that all they wanted to do in the morning was go to their jobs, unlike the feeling sharing sessions she was used to by all of the other chicks.
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  19. janice6

    janice6 Silver Member

    Apr 4, 2006

    Well there is your problem. A man cannot act with confidence around that campus. It intimidates the people with no confidence and that's bad for the wimpy group, Makes them feel more inadequate.

    Shame on you for feeling you can have pride in your work. An attitude like that can get you fired around paranoid liberals.

    Shape up and keep your head down, don't look anyone in the eye when addressing them and act like everyone is going to hit you. You will get along fine.
  20. I get told I'm "scary looking" or "mean looking" all the time, but it's actually worked in my favor most times. You have the same syndrome, it's called "command presence", and people are remotely intimitated by that.

    Feel for you dude, get the hell outta CA, might do you some good, personally and professionally.

    Found something you can wear to make you less than what you are :supergrin:


    Have a great gun carryin' Kenpo day

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