that you trully care about...but just doesn't get it? Heres the situation...me and this guy were in the Army together and got out around the same time. He has family in Kali and Texas, but desiced to go to Kali, and I think its starting to rub off on him. I try to give him positive advice very regularly(we talk a few times a week) but I just don't think its getting through. Im 24, and he is 25, and the next few years are very critical in both of our lives, and will decide the rest of our lives, and I tell him this, but its like he just tries to act like he cares, but really doesn't. He is taking college classes, but its part time, and just your basic general classes, with no real plan of starting a career, or even knowing what he wants to do. He is the type that is "addicted" to being in a relationship, and can't be single. He puts that(meeting girls, dedicating his life to girls) over his life and progression, and he is always "stressed out" because he tries to fall in live with damn near every girl he meets, and usually ends up getting screwed over. I try to tell him that girls are a dime a dozen at this age, and that he if he keeps putting them above himself, he will end up in 10 years looking back with no more progression than he has now, and what girl wants to be with an unsuccesful 35 year old welfare queen. It's like he still has the Army mindstate where he can just do the mininum or whatnot, and people will come to him to make sure he does what it takes to make it. I try to tell him, time and time again, that in the private market, its very competive, and it takes MUCH more than a few general college classes to earn yourself a career to be succesful. I try to tell him to leave Kali...but idk...its like the liberal mindstate is rubbing off on him. I jus dont know what to do. This guy is like my brother...and I know, and have even told him, the best I can do is give him advice, but his life is up to him. But it really breaks my heart that he seems to be going back to the lifestyle that made him want to enlist in the Army in the first place. What can I say/do to make him realize that in order to succeed you have to work your ass off and earn it. I even tell him, that a very high majority of poor people are that way for a reason, and succesful people likewise. But, like I said, its like he tries to base his like around trying to fall in love or whatever, and feels like as long as he takes a few basic college courses, with no longterm plan(or even knowing what he wants his career to be)he will be alright. I just don't know what to tell this guy. We have been through a few deployments together, and I really look at him as my brother...and I can't stand to see him fall into this loop. I just don't know what to do.