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Discussion in 'Cop Talk' started by Old Junes, Oct 21, 2011.

  1. Old Junes

    Old Junes

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    Do you like it when folks refer to you as "Sir" or "M'am" when addressing you- particularly if they are the same age or younger?

    Since I know that tone, body language and the like play a part in how we interpret what people say to us, for the sake of the question, you can assume that the tone isn't sarcastic and that the person doing the addressing is not being disingenuous in any way. Anyway, I always wondered if you thought that was respectful or condescending. Thanks for all you do.
     
  2. DaBigBR

    DaBigBR No Infidels!

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    I guess I'm indifferent. Calling me "man", "dude", or whatever else in a respectful tone is preferred to calling me "sir" in a snide one.
     

  3. nikerret

    nikerret Mr. Awesome

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    It is kind of strange having men my father's age refer to me as "sir", however, it is a sign of respect and I return it.

    Actually, I don't mind what I get called a long as it is something nine out of ten random people of no particular demographic would find polite if said in front of a class of gradeschool children.
     
  4. Patchman

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    I find it easier calling people "sir" or "ma'am." Or by their title if it's obvious what it is (Padre, rabbi, MD, professor, nurse, Trooper, Sergeant, Lieutenant, soldier, sailor, counselor, etc...) Even with co-workers I'll call them by their title: "Hey, Detective..." Hey Lieutenant, etc... Easier for me because then I don't have to remember their first names.

    So, I prefer someone calling me by my title. This way I'll know they're addressing me.
     
  5. collim1

    collim1 Shower Time!

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    If they are younger than me I prefer they call me Sir of Officer. If they are older than me anything that is not disrespectful is fine.

    Looking at it the other way I dont call people that are considerably younger than me Sir, I usually address them by the first name on their license. I work in a college town, I dont call snotty, rich, zit faced 19yo's Sir.

    I dont think that its unprofessional, but some disagree.
     
  6. CAcop

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    So true. Of course I work in a high surfer/skater to normal person area so "dude" is pretty common as a form of address.
     
  7. Chico Bill

    Chico Bill Millennium Member

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    I agree. I don't get caught up with the "respect my authoritay!" stuff. I'm a fan of mutual respect.
     
  8. Agent6-3/8

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    Same here. I'm not real picky as long as the person isn't being disrespectful.

    It always struck me as a bit odd when people my father or grandfather's age call me sir. I very much appreciate the gesture and take it as a sign of respect for the work I'm doing.
     
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    You don't think that's a little over the top and self-aggrandizing? :rofl::tongueout:
     
  10. merlynusn

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    I don't care as long as its respectful. I hate it when the thugs call me 'buddy'. But typically that's not the kind of interaction you are asking about.

    I learned to get over the Sir thing in the military and I don't find it odd when an older person says it. I actually get it more from older people who respect our profession than the younger people.

    Short answer: If the person is respectful, then it's all good.
     
  11. Hack

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    You can call me snake.
     
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  12. Old Junes

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    Thanks gentleman. Some good perspective... I've been giving more thought to how I might address an LEO in the event that I am stopped since obtaining a CCP. Fortunately, I haven't had to do it yet :supergrin:
     
  13. JBaird22

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    There is one guy in town that calls me buddy. We aren't friends and he has usually done something to find himself in a heap of trouble.

    On the other hand, anytime someone addresses me in a non-rude or attempt at condescending way, I am good with it. I am even good with them calling me by my last name as it is clearly posted on my name tag.
     
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    Same here....I refer to everyone as "sir" or "ma'am", except if it's obvious that they're in their mid to late teens... I actually find that, these days, it actually throws people off and some don't know how to respond.
     
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    Yes, yes he does. But he, like most of the reset of us, was constantly picked on and beat up in high school and have no other way to get our revenge on the world.
     
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    So what you're saying then, is "classic Napolean" syndrome then???!!

    You'd better get him professional help before "sir of officer" becomes "thank you sir, may I have another"!!!:rofl::rofl:
     
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    Mental note...don't ask collim1 if he wants a liter of cola.

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    really didn't like "chief"
     
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    I accept anything but "bro".
     
  20. Hack

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    I admit, that one is a little annoying to me.