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Need to vent! Thanks in advance for listening.

Discussion in 'Cop Talk' started by x_out86, Nov 7, 2011.


  1. x_out86

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    Today was just one of those days that makes you really question your faith in some peoples humanity. I need to vent a little bit, so here it goes....

    This year our department is doing the Shop with a Cop Program. We did it years ago, but just kind of faded away. This year the Chief asked me if I would be willing to do it again, and I gladly accepted the responsibility. I typed up a letter explaining the program and asking for donations which I started handing out this last Saturday during my shift.

    Today I continued handing them out, and was approached by a business owner who I had already dropped off a letter with. This business owner then proceeds to berate me about how I am doing the program.

    For some background info, our department is a small one and our area has few choices for shopping. Most people travel about 30 minutes out of town to do their regular shopping at the local stores like Wal-Mart, K-Mart, Target, etc. We are also a community that has many families living below the poverty line, and the average income in our area is far below the state average. It goes without saying that our area sees a lot of kids that dont have the happiest christmas.

    This business owner continues on by saying that I need to keep everything local, and that she cant believe that I am asking for money so that I can turn around and take it out of the area. I tried to explain to her that I would like to do that, but we dont really have any stores in our city that will have the selections of winters clothing and items that I had planned on buying for the kids. (It was my goal to make sure the every kid gets a new coat, snowpants, boots, hat and gloves) I also tell her that she does not need to donate anything if she does not agree with the program.

    Now here is the real kicker.....
    She then proceeds to tell me that I need to support our city businesses first because all of them pay their taxes, so they basically pay my salary! REALLY??? I am trying to do something nice for some kids that could really use the help, and you turn around and bring out the paying my salary line? I then told her that I wasnt even going to discuss it anymore with her if she was going to start basically insulting me by playing that card.


    Ya know, it is days like this that really make me question some things. Try to do something nice for the kids in our community that could really use the help, and this is the thanks that I get. Now dont get me wrong, I understand where she is coming from about shopping local, but that really is not an option for us. I also thought that maybe around the holiday season that she could forget about her profits for a second and be glad that some kids would be getting a little help in the grand scheme of things.

    RANT OFF. Thanks for listening guys.:wavey:
     

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  2. KiloBravo

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    I am not a LEO yet, but that is beyond messed up. I would like to commend you for helping those kids the way you are. Please don't let her dampen your spirit and willingness to give.

    On another note, I never understood the "I pay your salary" bit that some of these idiots use. Do they think that cops don't pay taxes or something? So I guess you could say that you help pay your own salary, right? :whistling: :supergrin:
     

  3. mj9mm

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    WOW, sorry, people should not be subjected to crap like that, but you are the better person, good luck with your program, maybe she'll come to her senses and apologize.
     
  4. m2hmghb

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    Things like this are why I realized I'll never be able to be an officer(aside from the physical limitations as well). I have a tendency to tell people exactly what I think of them. I personally would have told her that since she wants people to shop local, I'll gladly take my business to her competitor. I'm sorry you had to deal with that crap.
     
  5. collim1

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    People's ignorance and hatred of authority does not ever cease to amaze me. Hang in there brother.
     
  6. Bruce M

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    What kind of a store does she have? Could she order winter clothing from a wholesaler?
     
  7. PinkoCommie

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    You are doing a very kind thing for some kids in your community. Don't let her ruin it for you and them. Grin and bear it, and then revel in the feeling you get when the kids get some toasty new gear to get through the Wisconsin winter.

    And then, when no one is listening, you can let out how you really feel about that Grinch *****. As far as I am concerned, she can go **** herself.
     
  8. ray9898

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    You will never make everyone happy. Do your best to blow it off.
     
  9. trifecta

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    So sorry that happened. Some people just don't know how to play nice. You are doing the right thing and sometimes that just has to be enough.
     
  10. Metro566

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    They contribute all .000650% of my salary....whoopdie-eff'n-doo.
     
  11. x_out86

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    Of course not...She owns a jewelry store.

    Thanks though guys for the encouragement, and the words that make me know that I am not alone in finding a problem with her attitude.

    I have to say, I kind of let her get to me tonight. I spent the rest of my shift in a bad mood thinking about this. For a few hours, I even found myself wondering if I should even bother with the program.....But then I remembered that even if I can only help 1 kid, thats enough.
     
  12. LawScholar

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    In a few months, some kid is going to trudge through the snow and wind in a cozy new coat.

    You think he cares that some mean-spirited hag was ungrateful about it?

    Carry on, officer.
     
  13. Cochese

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    She can go suck a bag.

    Around here, you'd get put in for our Community Service award and the Chief would personally tell her to pound sand from a playground with cat terdz in it.
     
  14. Brucev

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    Your venting is perfectly understandable. Everyone of us have those days that leave us asking "Why?" Without exception I commend and applaud you and your dept. for what you are doing for children. May God bless you and your fellow officers.
     
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    I once was a young man in college with aspirations of workign in criminal justice and law enforcement. I thought I had a handle on the world in general. until I ACTUALLY started working in the field. Then I learned one of the most important things all criminal justice professionals should know....


    SOME PEOPLE ARE JUST IDIOTS!!!!!!

    Good for you Officer...you are doing a wonderful thing.
     
  16. Agent6-3/8

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    Some people are real ****sticks...no good reason for it, they just are. Kudos to you and your department for doing something good for the local kids!
     
  17. PinkoCommie

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    As far as the salary and tax thing goes, you can always tell her that you pay taxes too. And since you pay taxes too, you contribute to your own salary. And so this particular thing you are doing is on your own dime, then.
     
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    Just kick her in the babymaker and move on.

    ...er...

    Yeah, that.
     
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    Some people can't stand to see other people doing good things. Keep on trucking and don't let a-holes or politics stand in your way. And you're right, even if you help one kid that is way more than worth it. But you'll be helping more than 1 I am sure. You're an inspiration.
     
  20. RussP

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    Ask her what day you can bring 30+ kids in to shop in her store. Ask her to have the most affordable of her products out.